I got a little taste of this with Lou on Halloween night. We went to a party and trick-or-treating with some of the neighbors. The two little boys have been friends since birth, and Lou was such the odd-man-out. They were borderline mean to him. He hasn't been around many kids, so he didn't know what to think of it all. The so moms tried SO hard to make Lou a part of things, but it just wasn't happening.
Interestingly, my mom went through the same thing with me for the first half of elementary school. She'd drive by the playground, and I'd be alone, sifting through the sand and crying. She'd talk to teachers and parents, and it really didn't change anything. Eventually, I found my "group" and learned to have a great time and totally ignore the meanies.
With Lou, I'm really going to let him find his own way socially. He is fine with adults and older kids, just not other pre-schoolers. We've moved so much, he hasn't really had the chance to bond with anyone his own age. I definitely need to make some mommy friends here so he can have some one-on-one playdates and adjust to other kids. I wish you lived closer so he and Sydni could play together!
Please ignore the fact that he is wearing a raincoat and driving a car in the living room.