Babies don't wake up and cry every hour at night because they are hurt. They haven't yet learned how to soothe themselves back to sleep. It is NOT mean to teach a baby something they need to learn.
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Thank you. Geez, you'd think I was suggesting neglecting your baby.
A six month old CAN and SHOULD be able to self soothe back to sleep IF there is nothing else going on (illness, pain, extreme discomfort from some source).
I am going on the assumption that the OP is a good mother. I'm assuming that the baby is adequately (but not over) dressed, the room temp is where it should be, the baby is fed before bed, and has a dry diaper. If so, and that baby is STILL crying every hour (literally), it's because the baby KNOWS that the crying will bring mama straight into the room for "cuddling and comfort", which that baby does not NEED, but wants. A six month old baby needs uninterrupted, solid sleep. At least 11 hours per night. Look it up. It sounds to me like this baby is SLEEP DEPRIVED, since she is not able to sleep long stretches without waking, and this sleep deprivation is MUCH worse for a developing baby/child in the long run than a few moments here and there of crying and not getting a parental response.
OP, get educated on CIO and do it the RIGHT way. CIO does NOT mean "ignore your baby."
And yes, all kids are different. But, ALL people need to sleep. It's a requirement of our species. You are your child's teacher right now, and you have to help her learn to fall asleep on her own.
I am not trying to be harsh, but you can only put up with so much sleep deprivation yourself. Lack of sleep leads to stress, poor health, poor concentration, and can lead to accidents. If you have TRULY been up every hour of the night since your baby was born, your body and mind are going to start to break down very soon...
Thank you. Geez, you'd think I was suggesting neglecting your baby.
A six month old CAN and SHOULD be able to self soothe back to sleep IF there is nothing else going on (illness, pain, extreme discomfort from some source).
I am going on the assumption that the OP is a good mother. I'm assuming that the baby is adequately (but not over) dressed, the room temp is where it should be, the baby is fed before bed, and has a dry diaper. If so, and that baby is STILL crying every hour (literally), it's because the baby KNOWS that the crying will bring mama straight into the room for "cuddling and comfort", which that baby does not NEED, but wants. A six month old baby needs uninterrupted, solid sleep. At least 11 hours per night. Look it up. It sounds to me like this baby is SLEEP DEPRIVED, since she is not able to sleep long stretches without waking, and this sleep deprivation is MUCH worse for a developing baby/child in the long run than a few moments here and there of crying and not getting a parental response.
OP, get educated on CIO and do it the RIGHT way. CIO does NOT mean "ignore your baby."
And yes, all kids are different. But, ALL people need to sleep. It's a requirement of our species. You are your child's teacher right now, and you have to help her learn to fall asleep on her own.
I am not trying to be harsh, but you can only put up with so much sleep deprivation yourself. Lack of sleep leads to stress, poor health, poor concentration, and can lead to accidents. If you have TRULY been up every hour of the night since your baby was born, your body and mind are going to start to break down very soon...
Ok so I'm gonna try the CIO method, but does it work at getting dd back to sleep? I have no problem at all getting to to sleep. I put her down awake give her a kiss and binky, then off I go. She is usually asleep within 5 minutes. It's keeping her asleep that's the problem.
Again, CIO is not the only (or best for baby) method. I see alot of advice that has to do with bottles, where did the OP state she was formula feeding? If you are bottle feeding, I would say it is bad advice to suggest mixing the formula with cereal to keep baby full. The baby NEEDS the nutrition from breastmilk or formula, just as often as baby is hungry
Again, CIO is not the only (or best for baby) method. I see alot of advice that has to do with bottles, where did the OP state she was formula feeding? If you are bottle feeding, I would say it is bad advice to suggest mixing the formula with cereal to keep baby full. The baby NEEDS the nutrition from breastmilk or formula, just as often as baby is hungry.
OP- if you are willing to do research on the "Ferber method" why not research Dr.Sears? He offers much more peaceful solutions for parents of infants than this crying stuff. Also, there is a book called "our babies, ourselves" that is very enlightening. It was written by an anthropologist, and offers a different view of the whole infant sleep thing.
There have been several studies that show that when a baby cries, for any reason, their hormone cortisol rises. Cortisol is your stress hormone, the fight or flight hormone.Repeated increase in cortisol can actually change a baby's brain chemistry.
We are mammals after all. A cry, of any kind, is to let the mother know that the baby needs something. If left untended to in the wild, young that cry out without being helped are at greater risk of predators. An infant NEEDS comfort, needs touch, needs to be near their caregiver(s).... why do you think infants in the neonatal hospitals that are held/ massaged/ touched more often grow faster and stronger?
It is a biological response to tend to your baby. That is why many mothers experience the rapid beating of their heart, the overwhelming urge to get to their baby. It is biological. We are born to care for our young. Only when that bond is disturbed either at birth or in the early attachment months after birth can this natural response be disturbed.
Only in the US and Western cultures do we try to force independence on an infant. It is sad that babies can't be babies and know that the adults around them can be trusted and will tend to their needs.
When a baby cries and cries and no one comes, they give up. People think, "oh, she needed to cry to fall asleep" - not so... the baby is quiet because their trust has been betrayed and they know no one will come when they are hungry, lonely or scared.
this is coming from a mother of two children, who (as infants) never kept me up all night. Not once. I am a well-rested new mom. I am glad my children have never been left in a room to cry themselves to sleep, and it makes me sad to think of any baby going through that.
There have been several studies that show that when a baby cries, for any reason, their hormone cortisol rises. Cortisol is your stress hormone, the fight or flight hormone.Repeated increase in cortisol can actually change a baby's brain chemistry.
We are mammals after all. A cry, of any kind, is to let the mother know that the baby needs something. If left untended to in the wild, young that cry out without being helped are at greater risk of predators. An infant NEEDS comfort, needs touch, needs to be near their caregiver(s).... why do you think infants in the neonatal hospitals that are held/ massaged/ touched more often grow faster and stronger?
When a baby cries and cries and no one comes, they give up. People think, "oh, she needed to cry to fall asleep" - not so... the baby is quiet because their trust has been betrayed and they know no one will come when they are hungry, lonely or scared.
this is coming from a mother of two children, who (as infants) never kept me up all night. Not once. I am a well-rested new mom. I am glad my children have never been left in a room to cry themselves to sleep, and it makes me sad to think of any baby going through that.
6 month old babies (not to mention younger than that) are not meant to sleep through the night. They need to be fed and cuddled, just as much at nighttime as during the day.
I wish "Mommy Care" was pushed more by DRS... it's hard to do it all while you're exhausted...
Take care and good luck!
I am sorry but this is nonsense. 6 month old babies do not need to be feed through the night (I am including the 10pm feed as a day time feed) and they most certainly do not need to be cuddled-this is exactly why babies keep waking up because cuddling is nice. However OP is exhausted and needs / wants to sort this out.
OP- couple of questions?
You don't say whether baby is already on solids. If not it may be that she is hungry as she is not getting enough food during the day.
Does she sleep in the cot in your room as that is a great way to not sleep as you hear and react to every little movement. Put her in her own room if not already.
When she does wake up at night do you give her breast/bottle? Again babies of 6 months do not need feeding overnight if they are getting all of their milk and food requirements in the daytime. And again because it is nice and comforting any baby will choose extra milk. Try offering water. That is boring and she will not bother waking up just for that.
You also don't mention if she previously slept well and has suddenly started waking (which you may be able to find a trigger for) or whether she has always slept badly.
Another book suggestion is the "contented baby book" by Gina Ford. She isn't everyones cup of tea but she talks good sense about many things to do with settling babies, day time management which provides good nightime routine. Essentially any book that offers practical help to get baby to sleep at night is good. Don't be fooled by any book which perpetuates the myth that babies should be awake at night.
Essentially hang in there Mum, mummies need sleep at night and so do babies so you do need to do something about it but be consistent, it takes around 3 nights to develop a good habit that will stick.