PebblesMom
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Please do not give her water at 6 months.
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I am sorry but this is nonsense. 6 month old babies do not need to be feed through the night (I am including the 10pm feed as a day time feed) and they most certainly do not need to be cuddled-this is exactly why babies keep waking up because cuddling is nice. However OP is exhausted and needs / wants to sort this out.
OP- couple of questions?
You don't say whether baby is already on solids. If not it may be that she is hungry as she is not getting enough food during the day.
Yes. She has been eating solid foods for a while now. 4 tlbs fruit, 4 tlbs veggies, 6 tbls cereal per day and about 25 ozs of formula
Does she sleep in the cot in your room as that is a great way to not sleep as you hear and react to every little movement. Put her in her own room if not already.
She sleeps in her own room.
When she does wake up at night do you give her breast/bottle? Again babies of 6 months do not need feeding overnight if they are getting all of their milk and food requirements in the daytime. And again because it is nice and comforting any baby will choose extra milk. Try offering water. That is boring and she will not bother waking up just for that.
No, I do not feed her. I give her the binkie and walk out.
You also don't mention if she previously slept well and has suddenly started waking (which you may be able to find a trigger for) or whether she has always slept badly.
She has never slept great but was going until 2:30 before waking before.
Another book suggestion is the "contented baby book" by Gina Ford. She isn't everyones cup of tea but she talks good sense about many things to do with settling babies, day time management which provides good nightime routine. Essentially any book that offers practical help to get baby to sleep at night is good. Don't be fooled by any book which perpetuates the myth that babies should be awake at night.
Essentially hang in there Mum, mummies need sleep at night and so do babies so you do need to do something about it but be consistent, it takes around 3 nights to develop a good habit that will stick.
To the PP who commented about getting rid of the binkie for the thumb...I have thought about that. What holds me back is my 7 yo niece who still sucks her thumb. You can't take away her thumb but I can have her trade her binkie for a trip to Disney just like I did with DS.
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interesting that my "nonsense" was offered up with two cites for referencing, while most of the advice in this thread (including yours) was based on opinion or experience only. there is a huge amount of research based evidence promoting co-sleeping as the natural way for an infant to sleep through the night. This is current research, not 1950's dr.spock stuff.
I believe the op asked for advice on getting her baby to sleep so she can as well.... that is the advice I gave.
Also, neither of my references will say babies should be up screaming all night, simply that babies can/do/should be hungry more often.
Oh, and feeding a baby water? worst advice ever. Show me some research promoting that idea!
You say "the binkie." Does that mean there is only one in the crib? My kids had at least 6, to better the odds that they'd find one in the middle of the night. Binkies are way easier to get rid of than thumbs. Really, 24 hours of complaining, and you're done.
I am sorry but this is nonsense. 6 month old babies do not need to be feed through the night (I am including the 10pm feed as a day time feed) and they most certainly do not need to be cuddled-this is exactly why babies keep waking up because cuddling is nice. However OP is exhausted and needs / wants to sort this out.
OP- couple of questions?
You don't say whether baby is already on solids. If not it may be that she is hungry as she is not getting enough food during the day.
Does she sleep in the cot in your room as that is a great way to not sleep as you hear and react to every little movement. Put her in her own room if not already.
When she does wake up at night do you give her breast/bottle? Again babies of 6 months do not need feeding overnight if they are getting all of their milk and food requirements in the daytime. And again because it is nice and comforting any baby will choose extra milk. Try offering water. That is boring and she will not bother waking up just for that.
You also don't mention if she previously slept well and has suddenly started waking (which you may be able to find a trigger for) or whether she has always slept badly.
Another book suggestion is the "contented baby book" by Gina Ford. She isn't everyones cup of tea but she talks good sense about many things to do with settling babies, day time management which provides good nightime routine. Essentially any book that offers practical help to get baby to sleep at night is good. Don't be fooled by any book which perpetuates the myth that babies should be awake at night.
Essentially hang in there Mum, mummies need sleep at night and so do babies so you do need to do something about it but be consistent, it takes around 3 nights to develop a good habit that will stick.
SIL chose to bring her kids to bed with her. The first one did not get out of their bed until a few years after #2 arrived so was about 7 before he finally moved out of the Master Bdrm. youngest is 8 and still sleeps with them, even when visiting us and has cousins to room with. I think this has been a major factor in some marital issues for them. Flame me if you want, this is the truth!
We used CIO with both DS and DD, after making sure all was well and if it was outside of normal infant eating time. It worked, DS slept through night at 8weeks (eliminating the midnight feeding at 5 weeks and the 3 AM feeding at 8 weeks), DD did not eliminate midnight feeding until 8 weeks and 3 AM at about 12 weeks (she was a bigger baby and probably just did not eat enough to fill her up. After they were regular sleep though the nighters when they woke and cried I knew something else was going on, such as teething. Used oragel and some baby motrin, held, comforted, put on a lullaby CD then back into the crib. Since your DD is about this age and is showing similar needs maybe that would work for you?
SIL chose to bring her kids to bed with her. The first one did not get out of their bed until a few years after #2 arrived so was about 7 before he finally moved out of the Master Bdrm. youngest is 8 and still sleeps with them, even when visiting us and has cousins to room with. I think this has been a major factor in some marital issues for them. Flame me if you want, this is the truth!
Not to turn this into a co-sleeping thread, but ITA with this! I can't imagine how co-sleeping does NOT mess with a marriage. I mean, seriously. DH and I use "our" bed to do "our thing". We even lock the door so our kids can't barge in...
I am guessing that you did not breastfeed (not that it matters if you do or don't) because not feeding a 5 week old for that long would not be healthy. BF babies on average eat every 2 hours although some go longer. Breastmilk is processed much differently than formula. I am not saying anyone should do either- so not debating that- just stating facts. I am glad it worked for you but my ped would not have agreed with your feeding schedule. I also can't imagine letting a 5 week old CIO.
Also- bringing your child to bed with you does not mean they will sleep with you until college. All of my children co-slept with us. They are all good sleepers and don't need to all sleep with us. If the child is still in the bed at 8 years old that is because the parent wants it. Not because the child can't sleep in their own bed. I am sorry they are having marital problems but I think the parent doesn't want the kid out of the bed. JMHO.
These exhausting nights are going to be gone before you know it (I know it doesn't seem possible now) and you are seriously going to miss your children being little and all that comes with it (good and bad).
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My oldest is almost 14, and I don't miss night time crying in the least. I think the worst part about becoming a parent, for me, was sleep deprivation. I'm so glad we're over that part! My friend/neighbor just had a baby, and see looks exhausted.
Here here! My kids are 4 and almost 6 now. I can't WAIT for them to get even older. They are SO much more fun as "people" than as "babies or toddlers".
Sorry, but some people are just NOT baby people. Me and DH fit into that category. We wanted to have KIDS, but they aren't born that way.
SO glad to be done with feedings every 3 hours, nighttime waking (although, it still happens when they get sick and throw up at 1am...), diapers, etc. I was NOT a happy mommy when my kids were babies. I need my sleep, desperately. I love that I can sleep all night now. Wouldn't have another baby now if someone gave me a million dollars to do so.
And, I didn't get upset when my kids started preschool, or kindergarten. Some moms get SO depressed about that, but I just felt proud!
Hmm--and when they hit puberty and are crying that they don't want to grow up, they want to be your little boy/girl again. Talk to me then.
Please don't CIO without researching alternatives. 6 month old babies (not to mention younger than that) are not meant to sleep through the night. They need to be fed and cuddled, just as much at nighttime as during the day. Babies hold less food, digest faster, and thusly need nourishment more often than adults. Infants are not meant to be left alone to sleep. CIO is not without negative results for the baby. Yes, even though many babies have been put through the CIO system, and made it out "just fine" doesn't mean that it is okay.
I have done quite a bit of research on this, please feel free to PM me if you would like links or a book list on alternatives of "crying it out".... good luck!
(Oh, and before I get flamed- I am not out to judge other parents, just offering my advice about what works for my family. I have a child who co-slept and never had a problem transitioning her to her own bed. She also never had a bedtime issue- no refusing to go to sleep, no monsters, no afraid of dark, etc)