According to DD, academics are fine. Time will tell as she has her first AP class this year, World History. The rest of her core classes are pre-AP (weighted GPA). At the end of last year, she was in the top ten of her class of over 500, and shes determined to keep it that way
There was a little drama in Art with an overzealous young man. He decided that DD was going to be his friend, regardless of her feelings on the subject. DD is slow to warm up to people, so his overly enthusiastic attempts didnt fly with her. Based on DDs description of his behavior, he may have Aspergers. At any rate, we talked about how to set some boundaries, and it seems to have blown over.
Shes also in Band and FFA. Im hoping band went better today. Theres a boy that for reasons unknown has disliked DD since middle school. They play the same instrument. For the most part, they co-exist, in that DD ignores and avoids him. Last year there was a meeting with the Asst Principal when said boy decided to mock and make hurtful comments and got his buddies at his lunch table to join in. Yes, DD is on the sensitive side, and its something weve been working on for as long as I can remember. I thought things were better this year as shes actually mentioned him a time or two in a positive way. However, yesterday afternoon he decided to launch into her again. Weve yet to get her to tell us exactly what happened, but she was upset to the point of crying. Hoping that shell be willing to talk tonight.
Any suggestions on talking to a kid thats both very sensitive and very private. Shell very rarely talk about what is bothering her. Ive learned that the best way to get her to talk about her thoughts and feelings is to talk about various situations involving her friends or to discuss something weve seen on tv. We had some issues in middle school where I thought a counselor might help, however, she literally refused to get out of the car. DH and I went to the session and let her wait in the car. At the second session, she did decide to join us for about half the session, and the very next week she refused to get out of the car again. This last about six weeks. We got some good advice on dealing with her behavior, but I was really hoping to give her a safe place to open up.
We talk all the time; its just not about her feelings. Like I said, Ive learned how to gather information without it being directly about her. Im just wondering if anyone else has any advice to give.