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Do you see this as more of a collective decision between parents and child or should the choice be solely made by the child?
IMO, if the parents are "donating" to the cause, they have some say. BUT, the child should have the most input I'd say 60/40 at "worst", 75/25 at "best". Parents can say "we'll give you $x, you're responsible for anything else".Do you see this as more of a collective decision between parents and child or should the choice be solely made by the child?
For me to pay they had to choose from any of most of our state schools. Other than that they would have had to pay the difference. The state of Florida has some very good state schools.Do you see this as more of a collective decision between parents and child or should the choice be solely made by the child?
I would say to wait. But a verbal really means nothing. Remember this from experience. You cannot trust a university coaching staff.We provided very little input with our oldest three. We supported their right to make the decision and kept what we thought to ourselves.
Our dd (15) is a high school sophomore and ready to verbally commit to a college. My husband and I and her coaches think it's too early to make a decision. Finances don't come into play because the school has offered her a full scholarship. The coach has given her only a day to decide, which is putting a tremendous amount of pressure on her. Initially, she wanted to keep her choice a secret from us and we'd find out when she signed her NLI in September. I was fine with this at first, but I'm really not happy with how this school is going about recruiting her. Lots of red flags. She's in way over her head (heck I feel like I'm in over my head too, thus the question) and now I'm questioning at what level we intervene. She's also got several other good colleges that were going to meet with her at the end of the month at her next tournament. I think the hard part is that the school is everything she wants, but again, she's only a sophomore and still has time to make thoughtful decisions. Any advice?
At 15, I think you have every right to intervene. If it’s not sitting right you need to pay attention to your instincts. I’d personally be very wary of someone who would only give a kid one day to decide.We provided very little input with our oldest three. We supported their right to make the decision and kept what we thought to ourselves.
Our dd (15) is a high school sophomore and ready to verbally commit to a college. My husband and I and her coaches think it's too early to make a decision. Finances don't come into play because the school has offered her a full scholarship. The coach has given her only a day to decide, which is putting a tremendous amount of pressure on her. Initially, she wanted to keep her choice a secret from us and we'd find out when she signed her NLI in September. I was fine with this at first, but I'm really not happy with how this school is going about recruiting her. Lots of red flags. She's in way over her head (heck I feel like I'm in over my head too, thus the question) and now I'm questioning at what level we intervene. She's also got several other good colleges that were going to meet with her at the end of the month at her next tournament. I think the hard part is that the school is everything she wants, but again, she's only a sophomore and still has time to make thoughtful decisions. Any advice?