Thank you for your input (and other hotel idea) I'd love to know what activities on Oahu are favorites of everyones. I will keep looking at DisChurners to see if anyone post some more stuff
My 1st trip we stayed 9 nights the 2nd trip we stayed 13 nights and never left the island, which is sad because my high school bestie lives in Kauai. But I love Aulani and really crave downtime from a too hectic work life so I am kind of greedy about not being away from the resort too long. I will be taking the family in 2022 (unless one of my DD has another baby in the meantime) and still have no desire to leave the island, just a different perspective than most HI visitors I think. I would do all of the below again except Pearl Harbor.
Kualoa Ranch - great for multiple interests - I zipped lined and my BFF took the sustainable farm bus tour (she's a hobby farmer and hates heights) we also did one of the boat tours but would not do that again. There is a better zip line place a little further north if you are both interested in zip lining I would go to that one.
North Shore - we continued on to the North Shore from Kualoa Ranch. This will take you past a couple of the popular shrimp trucks and the turtle bay.
Pearl Harbor - 100% worth it
Swap Meet - really fun couple of hours some great deals on things I have not and probably never will use
Waimea Falls - love it for ease of access and ease of hike
Waikiki - fun to walk the beach, shops and grab a bite to eat
Ala Moana mall near Waikiki - awesome mall bought some things at Nordstoms and had them shipped home also had a good lunch just don't remember where.
On the last visit I did see a whale breach while sitting on my balcony, so cool. Also American Idol filmed there, while it was annoying that their stage took away from the natural ocean view (it didn't obstruct it though) it was fun to listen and see the contestants out and about for those few days.