psimon
Will travel for turkey legs!
- Joined
- May 20, 2000
marcyinPA said:Paul, I think the discussion got nasty when a DISer decided to call parents of picky eaters lazy, then tried to defend herself by saying that she was generalizing and not necessarily calling the posters on this particular thread lazy. I'm sorry, but that's a pretty lame CYA excuse if you ask me. (yeah, I know I wasn't asked). Then she has the gall to say that if it bothers us that much, then maybe our concience is creeping up on us, and we shouldn't be bothered at all by what a stranger has to say. But my question is, why make a statement like that in the first place?? What did she really think was going to happen by making a statement such as that? Like I tell my kids: "You can think it, but you shouldn't always say it"....
That poster also wanted some examples of what "picking your battles" means. Well, picking your battles in my family means letting my son wear pants and shirts that don't match (because he picked it out himself) to school. It means offering at least ONE item at breakfast, lunch, and dinner that he LIKES, and if that's all he eats, then so be it. (I DO NOT force feed....as much as I'd love for him to have a very healthy diet, force feeding can lead to other eating disorders and obesity and I just will not go there). It means if he wants his hair long, short, buzzed, blue....it's only hair. I don't think that any of these things makes me "lazy".
There are some things that are not negotiable: no piercings, no tattoos, no foul language, bed at a decent time, we treat others with respect, we pray before meals,
we value education, we put God first, no inappropiate t.v. shows, movies, or video games...
I think I can deal with the children's menu, regardless of how picky my son is. I will ask for substitutions and make it work. I know for a fact that he WILL eat a cheeseburger for every meal if I allow him to. Hopefully it won't come to that. I don't think Paul intended for this thread to be a "pickey eaters have lazy parents" thread. It didn't need to become that if people would just think before they posted, and not make such judgemental comments!
As long as you don't go to Olivias, I think you will be OK.
Wish I had typed your note! I agree across the board.
I agree with your "battles".... they work for me!
---Paul in Southern NJ