Am starting to live this more and more.
Was definitely noticeable after my Mom had her knee replacement in December 2017. She would be all smiley and compliant for the physical therapist. Me - not so much. Would not want to eat (or only eat what she wanted (such as Loaded Baked Potato soup that would not be good for her diabetes or cholesterol issues) and not what she was being served). And then I swear she would go days without showering and it was a constant struggle to get her up and out of the bed or to do her exercises. I love her dearly but she was testing all of my patience. And my Dad has issues walking so he was not much help with her. I finally told her that she needed to start doing more for herself because I was taking my vacation in early March that I desperately needed. She somehow in a week's time was much more mobile, ready to go to
Disneyland (granted with a wheelchair), and able to do more for herself. But even a year and a half later she has slowed a lot and I can tell. And her brain and memory has me concerned too...
And then my Dad --- he should have an ankle surgery, but refuses due to cost. And of course, we cannot let him get a cold as it turns into a bigger issue within a few hours due to Chronic Reactive Airway disease that typically results in an ER visit and hospital stay.
I am lucky as my cousins are all going through the same with their parents (3 couples all in their 80s), so we are always willing to help each other and vent as needed. But this all truly falls on me as an only child. But I love them and as someone said, it will be my honor and privilege to care for my parents after all they have done for me.