My Dad passed in 2005, three weeks after being diagnosed with cancer. He was only 61 and had been in perfect health up until about a month before he was diagnosed. My parents had been married 42 years. I only saw my Dad tear up twice in my life, when he was in the hospital a week before he passed, just the two of us were in his room. He said to me that if he didn't make it that he wanted my Mom to continue to live a full life and he was fine if she found someone to share it with. The reason for his tears was because he was sad at the thought of his life ending.
A week later right before he passed, our family was all around his bed telling him how much we loved him. He kept trying to say something, but we couldn't understand him. This went on for a few minutes, I then said, "I think Dad is trying to tell you that he is fine if you go on to find something new". Right after I said that Dad quieted down and passed minutes later. My parents had quite the love story and Dad expressed that love in the minutes before his death.
We were so heart broken after my Dads death. My Mom couldn't imagine EVER meeting anyone else. But, eight years later she did. We couldn't be happier about it. Mom and Dad loved to travel and go on adventures together. We of course, included Mom in all of our vacations, but now she has someone to share life with, in addition to her kids. They don't live together and will never get married, but they are together almost daily, going out to eat, the movies, shopping, and they travel with a tour group 4-5 times a year. The gentleman is a godsent!! We all feel so blessed to see Mom happy and enjoying life.
Had my Dad not shared his wishes with me, I don't know if my Mom would have had peace about opening her life up to a new man.
I have told my husband that life is for the living and if I pass, I want him to be happy and enjoy life and if having a companion makes him happy then that is what I want for him.