Colleen27
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Mar 31, 2007
We have talked about it, but from the "safe" space of us both being relatively young and healthy, when we were reviewing our life insurance/wills/guardianship documents when our oldest reached adulthood. Neither of us thinks we'd be likely to remarry, but we don't object to the idea that the other would do so either, and we've agreed on designating certain property to pass to our children regardless.
I don't see any benefit to having that conversation with an ill or dying partner, though. There is no good that can come of it but plenty of potential for guilt and hurt feelings. If the sick spouse wants to bring it up, to reassure the soon-to-be surviving spouse that it is okay to move on, fine. But the healthy spouse shouldn't seek to preemptively ease his/her conscience by putting that idea in the dying spouse's head.
I don't see any benefit to having that conversation with an ill or dying partner, though. There is no good that can come of it but plenty of potential for guilt and hurt feelings. If the sick spouse wants to bring it up, to reassure the soon-to-be surviving spouse that it is okay to move on, fine. But the healthy spouse shouldn't seek to preemptively ease his/her conscience by putting that idea in the dying spouse's head.