The poster is from Holland. Can you speak and write in Dutch?
I completely understand that sjaakie is from a country other than the USA. Notice the laughing smilely faces........that meant I was being funny......you need to lighten up!!!! If I offended you sjaakie please forgive me.
I see you edited out the "mean spirited" part or your nasty comment. Thanks!!!
O God I'm trying to write in English so please forgive me if I make a silly mistake.The poster is from Holland. Can you speak and write in Dutch?
O God I'm trying to write in English so please forgive me if I make a silly mistake.
And no I'm not offended by all means
I did edit my post. I realize you are a resonable poster and decided to give you the benefit of the doubt.
Its tacky not to tip (except under rare circumstances) in the U.S. Its tacky to tell other people what to tip unless someone asks you.
I believe the poster is referring to the union at Disney. There have been statements as to "sneeze sandwiches" on this thread. It is not unheard of for waitstaff to "add a little something extra" to an undesirable guest's food .It's ashame our society's sense of entitlement has gotten so out of hand.....in the restaurant industry. Sorry, tipping may be customary and expected, but it is still NOT required. It is still...in most places...left to the discretion of the patron. It is a service charge when it is automatically added....NOT a gratuity.
I just found this on the web. Interesting http://www.877tippool.com/877facts.html
So what Im understanding by the first item on this, is that employers of waitstaff are only required to pay minimum wage as is everyone. But restaraunt employers have a "tip credit" allotted to them so that they only have to pay a rate of 2 or so bucks an hour. And WE as customers are EXPECTED to bring the servers pay to above minimum wage. Hmmm too bad that doesnt work for my employees. I could EXPECT my customers to bring my employees pay to above minimum wage. That would save me alot of money on taxes and wages.
Even though, my customers "indirectly" cover my employee's wages, its not exactly true. Restaraunt employers are NOT taxed on the same amount of wages I get taxed on. I am taxed on the full minimum wage, they are only taxed on the 2 or so bucks.Your customers do cover your employee's wages but more indirectly and with less discrection on what they get paid. And I am assuming you do pay your employees minimum wage.
Some of you act like the whole concept of tipping is foreign to you.
Has anyone said that they don't tip at all? I haven't read that, but maybe I missed a post or two.
I don't think that the PP who said that tipping is optional or a gift is trying to imply that they do not tip, but rather I believe that they are saying that as it's an optional gift the percentage to tip is up to the consumer. If they tip 10% or 30% it's up to the individual to decide that for themselves what to tip.
Is 10% the standard anymore? No, and I am not saying that. However 30% tips are not standard either. Tipping above and below the standard should eventually even out for the server.
Though I don't generally support the notion of tipping 10% when you receive amazing service, in the case of the couple celebrating their 60th anniversary I think the 10% tip was appropriate. There are always extenuating circumstances in life that we may or may not know about. (Actually after the waitress confronted them I feel that 5% was more appropriate - that was pretty rude)
Even though, my customers "indirectly" cover my employee's wages, its not exactly true. Restaraunt employers are NOT taxed on the same amount of wages I get taxed on. I am taxed on the full minimum wage, they are only taxed on the 2 or so bucks.
I actually pay my employees more than minimum wage even starting out, and I am always a good tipper. I just find this whole thread a little un - nerving because of the whole attitude with servers. As I said before I come from a long line of servers. And I loved being a waitress. But never once did I not appreciate the tip I received, whether it be 10-20% or less. I was appreciative of every patron that came into the establishment I worked and whether they had children or not. I looked at every customer with the same eyes. Its funny how things have changed in such a short time.
This is my biggest gripe too........I tell servers to keep the change if that is my intention, but if you see me paying a $51 check with a fifty and a twenty, then assume you get to keep the change, you have insured yourself of a lower tip. Many people just say "No, I don't need the change" just to avoid an awkward moment, and servers are betting on that......this is a form of extortion in my opinion. Ok, I feel better with that off my chest!
Hello All! Not trying to be rude or pushy but I used to be a wait staffer and manager, as well as a bartender.
Now days, 18 to 20% is the norm for regular service. I know that when I take my children, who I make be as neat as possible, I start at 30% and go down, depending on service and messiness of my children.
I do understand that many people are on a budget, but can you imagine how many non-tippers and parents with messy children are at DW places on a regular basis? Remember, many of these people work there for jobs, not for fun! (Hard to believe not everyone loves DW, huh?) Also, they have to split tips with the bartender and the clean-up crew, and many times the hostess that seats you. And they take the brunt of frustration about bad food, or just bad day in general.
As a former waitstaff, please be generous to them as much as you can. It is a lot easier to get great service when you tip well, and are considerate to the server. I always say thank you and please, and try my best to keep neat because the work is hard and you would be super suprised the quality of the service you can get most of the time.
Just some advice from someone who knows!!!
30% is not the standard, no doubt. No one ever claimed it was. The OP of this thread did not claim that 30% was the standard. People have read way too much into what the original post said and it has seemed to "evolve" in this thread.
DiszyDean said:The server in that case, if she solicited tips, directly or indirectly from the couple should be reprimanded IMO.
DiszyDean said:That being said, whether old or young or whatever, if you want to eat in a fancy resteraunt, make sure you can afford it INCLUDING the standard, customary tip if warranted by the service you provided. And as you mentioned, that is not 10%. What if they had not brought enough money to pay the actual food bill? Should that be excused too?
DiszyDean said:I am sure a lot of people would like to eat out at fancy resteraunts, buy new cars every year, take fancy vacations and I am sure most of these people have great stories and are very nice people that we would all sympathize with. But the reality of the world is that if you do not have the money to do something that extravegant, dont do it. Not having the funds is not a very good excuse for not tipping in today's world.
I forgot to mention something I witnessed that made my hair stand on end! I overheard a waitress ask this much older couple what was wrong with her service as they only tipped her 10% of the check and asked was there something wrong with her service.
Well, the gentleman said yes dear there was something wrong. He has bad vision and counted his money before they went out and counted wrong. He aplogized and said he was very sorry. As she walked away grunting the wife learned over and said I told you this was a bad idea I don't know why I let you take me here. He said he was sorry but felt she did deserve a nice night out being that it was their 60th anniversary. He then was telling her how much he loved her and at that point I stopped listening. I wanted to cry. This was not a fancy place sadly I was certain he had squeezed that out of their SS check. You never know.
Hello All! Not trying to be rude or pushy but I used to be a wait staffer and manager, as well as a bartender.
Now days, 18 to 20% is the norm for regular service. I know that when I take my children, who I make be as neat as possible, I start at 30% and go down, depending on service and messiness of my children.
I do understand that many people are on a budget, but can you imagine how many non-tippers and parents with messy children are at DW places on a regular basis? Remember, many of these people work there for jobs, not for fun! (Hard to believe not everyone loves DW, huh?) Also, they have to split tips with the bartender and the clean-up crew, and many times the hostess that seats you. And they take the brunt of frustration about bad food, or just bad day in general.
As a former waitstaff, please be generous to them as much as you can. It is a lot easier to get great service when you tip well, and are considerate to the server. I always say thank you and please, and try my best to keep neat because the work is hard and you would be super suprised the quality of the service you can get most of the time.
Just some advice from someone who knows!!!
Not much more to say here that I haven't already said. So, for those keeping score:
1. All servers are self-entitled.
2. They are are making tons of money off the the real hard working people of the world.
3. They don't appreciate tips.
4. They all spit in our food.
5. They really don't work that hard.
6. Most servers are rude.
7. All servers are greedy.
These are some of the things said whether implied or directly in this thread alone. Maybe a slight exhageration but not too far from the truth.
Sorry, but tipping is a STANDARD in this country anyway for standard/good service at resteraunts where you are served. For poor service, all bets are off. But saying that tipping is "optional" for good service is being obtuse. Tipping is not akin to throwing some change in the bucket at your local Salvation Army stop.
And if their was no tipping system, you would still be paying the servers wages but at that point, the level at which you paid would no longer be discretionary or based on level of service. You would pay for it in the cost of the food you purchased.
It is a sorry state of affairs when people lose all courtesy and common sense to try to justify their own cheapness.
Not directed at anyone inparticular but you know who you are.