pinktink83
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- Jul 20, 2003
Hmmm, this is very strange to me. I have a 4th grader and 2nd grader and it has never ever occurred to me to be annoyed at the parents who hold their kids back a year. I guess I just don't really care what other parents do...I'm too busy worrying about my own kids!!
I just don't see why it matters if there are kids who are a year older than they are in their class. They're all learning at the same level, just cause the kid is 11 instead of 10 doesn't mean he automatically knows more. He's been learning at the same level as the other kids all along. And if he's not particularly bright, he wouldn't be ahead of them at all anyway. I know some kids who skipped grades and the youngest in the class, too. Never saw it as a problem. Its more about your learning level than your age. Honestly, I'd be more concerned about the younger ones skipping grades, and how they fit in socially, but the ones I know haven't had a problem with it.
For most of the kids in the class, their birthdays are going to be all throughout the year, so even if they went to their "normal grade" they may STILL be a full 12 months younger/older than someone else. Even if this kid is tall...age doesn't really matter. I know some older kids who are pipsqueaks, and some younger kids who are amazons. Its just roll of the genetic dice. Sure, age can be a factor, but most likely, this kid was going to be taller than his classmates no matter what grade he was in.
And...about the older siblings...that has nothing to do with whether or not he was held back a year. A kid with older siblings will still have older siblings whether they are moved up, stayed, or held back. It depends where they were born in their family line-up, not when their parents sent them to school, lol.
Of course, I support both sides of the coin. I think its just fine to hold a child back a year in starting Kindergarten if mom thinks they need more time emotionally/mentally/socially to mature. Especially since most areas don't offer half-day kindergarten anymore. Some 5 year olds just can't handle all day school, 5 days a week yet.
And think what you want about it, but numerous studies have shown, that especially for boys, it can be very beneficial for them to start at age 6 as opposed to 5. Their learning skills haven't quite caught up to the girls yet, and it can set up a negative connotation of school right from the start if they feel like they aren't "smart enough".
I just don't see why it matters if there are kids who are a year older than they are in their class. They're all learning at the same level, just cause the kid is 11 instead of 10 doesn't mean he automatically knows more. He's been learning at the same level as the other kids all along. And if he's not particularly bright, he wouldn't be ahead of them at all anyway. I know some kids who skipped grades and the youngest in the class, too. Never saw it as a problem. Its more about your learning level than your age. Honestly, I'd be more concerned about the younger ones skipping grades, and how they fit in socially, but the ones I know haven't had a problem with it.
For most of the kids in the class, their birthdays are going to be all throughout the year, so even if they went to their "normal grade" they may STILL be a full 12 months younger/older than someone else. Even if this kid is tall...age doesn't really matter. I know some older kids who are pipsqueaks, and some younger kids who are amazons. Its just roll of the genetic dice. Sure, age can be a factor, but most likely, this kid was going to be taller than his classmates no matter what grade he was in.
And...about the older siblings...that has nothing to do with whether or not he was held back a year. A kid with older siblings will still have older siblings whether they are moved up, stayed, or held back. It depends where they were born in their family line-up, not when their parents sent them to school, lol.
Of course, I support both sides of the coin. I think its just fine to hold a child back a year in starting Kindergarten if mom thinks they need more time emotionally/mentally/socially to mature. Especially since most areas don't offer half-day kindergarten anymore. Some 5 year olds just can't handle all day school, 5 days a week yet.
And think what you want about it, but numerous studies have shown, that especially for boys, it can be very beneficial for them to start at age 6 as opposed to 5. Their learning skills haven't quite caught up to the girls yet, and it can set up a negative connotation of school right from the start if they feel like they aren't "smart enough".