How do you bury a child? :(

[aristocatz]

Just came home from a wake for one of my former students, who passed on from cancer a few days ago.... she was only 7 years old I have never experienced the death of someone so young. Her parents & siblings are holding on as best they can & I think their religion is what is keeping them so strong. Its just so unfair-a mother is just not supposed to bury her child

 

[bbak30]

Ugh. I hate those kind of funerals.
I have 3 friends who have had to bury their children. One friend lost her 8 week old to SIDS, another friend lost her 2 and 3 year olds in a house fire and most recently my co-worker lost her 12 week old to SIDS as well.
I honestly have no idea. It's so hard as an outsider, I can only imagine being the parent. All we can do is pray for them and do what we can.
All families are doing ok and have all gone on to have more children.
I'm very sorry for your loss. Sucks.

 

[Nancyg56]

No. I do not know how you recover losing a child. I just do not.

 

[low-key]

hey

 

[jevs]

It's something I hope I never have to go through, I can't even imagine the grief experienced by parents who have lost a child.

((hugs))

 

[Gumbo4x4]

It would have to be worst thing imaginable

 

[King Schultz]

Just the worse thing I can imagine.

Some things you just have to endure and trust time will make it more bearable. . but losing a child- I have no idea how someone could deal with it.

 

[Gorechick]

Losing a child IS an awful experience and one I would not wish on anyone. However, having to tell your child they are going to die is even worse.

 

[Pixiedustaway]

I never want to find out. So sorry for your loss. I have no idea how parents cope with that.

 

[kimblebee]

Losing a child IS an awful experience and one I would not wish on anyone. However, having to tell your child they are going to die is even worse.

Good lord...I don't know the situation but I'm so sorry. It's the stuff of nightmares.

 

[PrincessShmoo]

Losing a child IS an awful experience and one I would not wish on anyone. However, having to tell your child they are going to die is even worse.

My biggest fear when we started having kids was that they would get some terrible illness at a young age and I'd have to be the one to decide what terrible treatments they'd have to go through. My hope was they would live long enough to be able to participate in those choices, if there were any. Thankfully, we never had to.

Saying prayers for all who've lost a child.

 

[mnrose]

My dear friend buried her 12 year old two years and one month ago, after a three year battle with pediatric cancer. The single worst funeral I've ever attended, by a long **** ways. Not even close. Worse, in some ways, than my own mother's funeral, and she died at age 50.

Pediatric cancer victims are robbed of so much, even if they somehow survive. My friend has thrown herself into raising money in any way that she can for pediatric cancer research, which is woefully underfunded compared to "adult" cancers. In particular, she is a big fan of St Baldricks. But, don't even get her started on the American Cancer Society....a group that loves to use cute little bald kid in their ads but does almost nothing (and I do mean almost NOTHING) for actual childhood cancer patients. It's disgusting and appalling. Don't use them to raise money and then ignore their research needs.

What I've learned from her is that childhood cancer is not rare, but it is lacking a voice. We can all help lend our voice to their cause. Even those who survive suffer lifelong medical effects from being forced to use drugs designed for adults on their fragile little bodies because there are hardly any cancer meds specifically designed for kids...and no, kids are not just miniature adults!

Makes me so angry.

OP, I'm so sorry for this devastating loss in your community. :-(

 

[mom2rtk]

I almost couldn't even open the thread. It's just too hard to even think about.

I imagine you do what you have to because what is the choice?

 

[cjbcam]

My brother passed away from SIDS. It was awful because there was/is not a lot known about SIDS the parents get interrogated. My mom has always been a nervous wreck thinking she would lose another one. She also went a little "crazy" for lack of a better word. My grandma would call to see how she was and my mom would reply with things like "getting the bottle ready".
My cousin died in his teens of a drug overdose and my aunt and uncle just kind of were mad and hurt and now just kind of are ok but don't say much about him.

 

[Gorechick]

Good lord...I don't know the situation but I'm so sorry. It's the stuff of nightmares.

I just recently started mentioning here on the boards that my son died from leukemia. It was 10 months from the time of diagnosis to when he passed. As a family, we were blindsided and are still in a state of shock almost 2 years later. My son was completely involved in his care from Day 1 and his doctors, nurses, and caregivers were so impressed with his knowledge, bravery, strength, and resilience. He was closest to me and when the last treatment failed I couldn't not tell him, he already knew. September is Pediatric Cancer Awareness month. If you are interested in supporting pediatric cancer research, I recommend donating to http://curesearch.org

 

[jevs]

I just fecently started mentioning here on the boards that my son died from leukemia. It was 10 months from the time of diagnosis to when he passed. As a family, we were blindsided and are still in a state of shock almost 2 years later. My son was completely involved in his care from Day 1 and his doctors, nurses, and caregivers were so impressed with his knowledge, bravery, strength, and resilience. He was closest to me and when the last treatment failed I couldn't not tell him, he already knew. September is Pediatric Cancer Awareness month. If you are interested in supporting pediatric cancer research, I recommend donating to curesearch.org.

. ((Hugs))

 

[Melissa_E]

I just recently started mentioning here on the boards that my son died from leukemia.

HUGS. My brother passed at 15 from leukemia. It took a very long time before anyone was even remotely close to being OK.

 

[FINFAN]

My DH's former boss and his wife lost their 3 year old son to cancer. It was extremely difficult and frustrating feeling so helpless for them. DH often had feelings of guilt going in to work each day as our son was only a few years older at the time and my DH would feel so bad that our son was leading a normal life while their son was undergoing experimental treatments, suffering and not going to grow up. The wake and funeral was one of great sorrow, anger, admiration for the parents and prayer for that sweet little boy in a tiny casket. The family buried their son with grace, love and the consolation that he was no longer in pain, and their faith yes, while they questioned it at times, was a huge source of support for them.
((((hugs))) to you

 

[NCRedding]

The hardest part of losing both of my siblings to cancer has been watching my parents go through the pain of saying goodbye to their child, even when those children were 46 and 60. They have a strong faith in God and each other. It is being tested these last few months as my sister was suffering, and my dad was then also diagnosed with cancer. They have several friends who have also lost children who support each other as much as possible. having seen the pain up close when the "child" has had a good life, I can't imagine how horrible it must be to lose a child when they are so young and have not really had a chance to live.

 

[Dan Murphy]

I just recently started mentioning here on the boards that my son died from leukemia. It was 10 months from the time of diagnosis to when he passed. As a family, we were blindsided and are still in a state of shock almost 2 years later. My son was completely involved in his care from Day 1 and his doctors, nurses, and caregivers were so impressed with his knowledge, bravery, strength, and resilience. He was closest to me and when the last treatment failed I couldn't not tell him, he already knew. September is Pediatric Cancer Awareness month. If you are interested in supporting pediatric cancer research, I recommend donating to http://curesearch.org
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God bless you and your family, Gorechick. 's God speed for your little guy, always with you.