I was 23 when my son died at 3 days after birth. He had a heart defect that they didn't find until almost 24 hrs. after birth. He would have just turned 37. I had 2 daughters 2 and 3 at the time. It was the worst thing that has ever happened to me and something I would never ever wish on someone. At the time the pain was almost unbearable. I didn't not have a religion to rely on and the people who were religious were horrible to me. The things they said in the name of God, well lets just say it wasn't a way to bring anyone into the fold. They were all saying it in the name of Jesus. It took a long time but I now realize that some people just are not nice people and it isn't the religions fault.
Not a day goes by that I don't think of him and my kids (even my son who will be turning 36 next month) remember his birthday.
I think things are different now than they were when he died as people will now talk more. At the time I was told to not talk about him and to just "let it go" that he was only a baby so I really wasn't attached to him or had any time to get to know him so it should have been easy to get over. Good advice NOT. I think it took me a lot longer to deal with things because of all that.
I remember one lady in the mall who I sat beside right after it had happened. We talked and I told her that my son had just died. She held my hand and said that she had a son who died after birth as well. She was in her late 70s she said and that she still grieved for him. She told me to take one day at a time and one step at a time. She was one to listen to.
tigercat
Not a day goes by that I don't think of him and my kids (even my son who will be turning 36 next month) remember his birthday.
I think things are different now than they were when he died as people will now talk more. At the time I was told to not talk about him and to just "let it go" that he was only a baby so I really wasn't attached to him or had any time to get to know him so it should have been easy to get over. Good advice NOT. I think it took me a lot longer to deal with things because of all that.
I remember one lady in the mall who I sat beside right after it had happened. We talked and I told her that my son had just died. She held my hand and said that she had a son who died after birth as well. She was in her late 70s she said and that she still grieved for him. She told me to take one day at a time and one step at a time. She was one to listen to.
tigercat
I have never experienced the death of someone so young. Her parents & siblings are holding on as best they can & I think their religion is what is keeping them so strong. Its just so unfair-a mother is just not supposed to bury her child 
