mom2rtk
Invented the term "Characterpalooza"
- Joined
- Aug 23, 2008
And just so you know, only the mods can say who can and cannot post on a given thread.Thank you for clarifying.. you're allowed compost on my thread again
And just so you know, only the mods can say who can and cannot post on a given thread.Thank you for clarifying.. you're allowed compost on my thread again
And just so you know, only the mods can say who can and cannot post on a given thread.
Actually, I'm sorry.. you're barred from this thread agin. Please go elsewhere.
Actually, I'm sorry.. you're barred from this thread agin. Please go elsewhere.
You have come to a public forum and asked a personal question. Apparently you only want "good news" and platitudes. No one has said anything overly rude or inflammatory, proving that you DO take things way too personally.
If you didn't leave any of your cohorts in a lurch regarding school work/projects when you took your leave of absence, then I would assume 1 of the following:
a. They are uncomfortable with you since you provided an overabundance of information regarding your reason for leaving the program in the fall and they don't know what to say to you, or whether they are to acknowledge the elephant in the room (specifically, if you have been able to achieve and maintain sobriety); or
b. They are uncertain how to connect with a 40 year old man who was in the program briefly, left and has now returned. They have formed their own cliques and it may take some time for you to find a group to "fit in" with.
One suggestion I might make is attending AA meetings. I know you achieved sobriety on your own, and that is wonderful, but it might help to have others to speak to regarding your disease. I believe it is a non-judgmental group who should be able to better understand your circumstances.
So, we're supposed to believe that you well all your true details in the post but lie in your profile?
Or....
c. There isn't actually any thought (positive or negative) given to the OP and he is imagining resentment/negativity
d. As a PP pointed out, he's showing the same attitude there as he shows here.
Nope, that was me that he originally prohibited from commenting on this thread. After clarifying my statement, he "gave" me permission to comment.mom2rtk is not even the poster you "barred" the first time.
I think you've been given a lot of good, thoughtful, & clear advice on this thread.
But, honestly, if the attitude you portray on this thread is the same attitude you portray in your classes to your fellow students, I can understand why you're feeling a bit ostracized.
Good additions.
No, I was born before 1981. In regard to your first paragraph, I have done a lot of reading and I've found that there is some evidence that even little things that cause change or disruption can have a ripple-like effect, which I am assuming happened in my cohort. I never went to class drunk, but yes, I did send drunk texts. None of them were insulting, but I found that I was trying not to act "my age" in an attempt to win them over. I will address your next post in my next post, as I don't know how to merge the two!
mom2rtk is not even the poster you "barred" the first time.
I think you've been given a lot of good, thoughtful, & clear advice on this thread.
But, honestly, if the attitude you portray on this thread is the same attitude you portray in your classes to your fellow students, I can understand why you're feeling a bit ostracized.
You have come to a public forum and asked a personal question. Apparently you only want "good news" and platitudes. No one has said anything overly rude or inflammatory, proving that you DO take things way too personally.
If you didn't leave any of your cohorts in a lurch regarding school work/projects when you took your leave of absence, then I would assume 1 of the following:
a. They are uncomfortable with you since you provided an overabundance of information regarding your reason for leaving the program in the fall and they don't know what to say to you, or whether they are to acknowledge the elephant in the room (specifically, if you have been able to achieve and maintain sobriety); or
b. They are uncertain how to connect with a 40 year old man who was in the program briefly, left and has now returned. They have formed their own cliques and it may take some time for you to find a group to "fit in" with.
One suggestion I might make is attending AA meetings. I know you achieved sobriety on your own, and that is wonderful, but it might help to have others to speak to regarding your disease. I believe it is a non-judgmental group who should be able to better understand your circumstances.
I agree with everything you said. I don't like AA for reasons I don't want to get into.
Hey everyone, I'm going to withdraw from this discussion. I was originally looking for some advice, which I received and I am very grateful for. However, it seems as though it has turned to somewhat of a psychoanalysis of what is wrong with me which I was hoping wouldn't happen.
To all, thank you. You have given me perspective on my situation, and now, having been couple of days removed, I realize that I was probably overreacting. I just want everyone to realize something. I came from a place where personal information was very sensitive, so things like age and location are somewhat guarded. I didn't lie in any of my prior posts/threads, but I didn't feel the need to give out every detail in my profile.
Again, thank you to all, those who were supportive, those who called me out on my potential BS and those who gave suggestions. I realize that putting myself "out there" was an invitation for others to analyze my life and bombard me with what I should/shouldn't do.
That being said:
YOU ARE ALL, HEREBY BARRED FROM POSTING FURTHER ON THIS THREAD, SO SAYS smmcgarry.
Mod, please close it when you get a chance?