Who lets their kids sing loudly on an airplane

[MamaBelle4]

My MIL used to host Halloween parties, and DH went as Charlie Brown the one year. We took a sheet and colored black holes all over it. He did that the year he was injured because that was his "rock" lol.

 

[Pink Partridge]

For our meeting, this parent didn't have child care, so she brought her 3 year old with her to the meeting. There were about 12 of us seated around a conference table and her toddler was sitting on her lap. She gave him her phone and let him watch a show a full volume while we were trying to have the meeting. The woman leading the meeting was so flustered from the full volume TV show going on right in front of her that she finally just wrapped things up early. It was such an awkward situation because no one really felt like it was their place to ask the child to turn down the show when he was sitting on his mother's lap watching it. I don't know how his mother could focus on anything the leader was saying because I sure couldn't.

What is wrong with people? In what world is that normal? How did that mother think it was normal?

I would have not lasted 20 seconds in that meeting without looking at the mother and telling her that she was to turn the volume OFF.

 

[Squirlz]

My Bose noise cancelling headphones work great. I put them on as soon as I sit down.

 

[cabanafrau]

I read this thread yesterday morning and didn't have anything to add, then I went to a meeting yesterday afternoon and me the kind of parent who would let her child sing loudly on a plane.

For our meeting, this parent didn't have child care, so she brought her 3 year old with her to the meeting. There were about 12 of us seated around a conference table and her toddler was sitting on her lap. She gave him her phone and let him watch a show a full volume while we were trying to have the meeting. The woman leading the meeting was so flustered from the full volume TV show going on right in front of her that she finally just wrapped things up early. It was such an awkward situation because no one really felt like it was their place to ask the child to turn down the show when he was sitting on his mother's lap watching it. I don't know how his mother could focus on anything the leader was saying because I sure couldn't.

This kind of intentional rudeness would cause me to spend some time composing a very thoughtfully worded email to the group, never mentioning names, simply leaving no doubt whatsoever about my frustration at having everyone's valuable time and the presenter's efforts wasted for absolutely no good reason.

 

[Wishing on a star]

If I were a person with any influence or control at that meeting....
I would call a quick break... pull Mrs. Mommie aside...
"Since you seem to be able to attend the meeting without distraction, you may be excused (are free to go home... or whatever)... I / We will get together with you at some later time... (or, Mr. / Mrs. So-and-so will get together with you) to bring you up to speed."

The problem here isn't just the entitled mother, but those that enable this kind of thing!

 

[Summer2018]

Try having a parent/teacher conference under those conditions. I’m forced to do it all the time usually with multiple siblings running around my classroom getting into everything.

 

[ronandannette]

My Bose noise cancelling headphones work great. I put them on as soon as I sit down.

I flew yesterday seated between a husband and wife that had pre-selected a window and an isle. I imagine they hoped nobody would choose the middle seat or that the airline wouldn't assign it. Wife put on her Bose immediately as well and they really must work great because she couldn't hear her husband yelling past me trying to get her attention 20 times during the flight. He ended up having to reach over me to tap her, and a couple of times he threw bits of the snack he was eating.

 

[AnnaFloridaLover]

I flew yesterday seated between a husband and wife that had pre-selected a window and an isle. I imagine they hoped nobody would choose the middle seat or that the airline wouldn't assign it. Wife put on her Bose immediately as well and they really must work great because she couldn't hear her husband yelling past me trying to get her attention 20 times during the flight. He ended up having to reach over me to tap her, and a couple of times he threw bits of the snack he was eating.

Lesson here: Always pay for your seat ahead of time. It's not worth putting up with that.

 

[firefly_ris]

I flew yesterday seated between a husband and wife that had pre-selected a window and an isle. I imagine they hoped nobody would choose the middle seat or that the airline wouldn't assign it. Wife put on her Bose immediately as well and they really must work great because she couldn't hear her husband yelling past me trying to get her attention 20 times during the flight. He ended up having to reach over me to tap her, and a couple of times he threw bits of the snack he was eating.

Sorry I know you were probably annoyed with this whole scenario but I definitely LOL'ed at the description of him throwing snacks at his wife to try to get her attention.

 

[NYCgrrl]

I laugh at this because guess my DS's name Although he was a great flyer since he was 4, never loud or a complaint. Thank you Benadryl



Well you are from the Evil Empire sorry Bostonian here. Couldn't resist

When we camped in CT one of the park rangers used to needle everyone in the region. If your license plates were from NYS he'd say you were from the Vampire State. Mass was Taxachusetts for him and NJ was picked to pieces from both ends. He died a few years back and his funeral was well attended .

 

[jevs]

Try having a parent/teacher conference under those conditions. I’m forced to do it all the time usually with multiple siblings running around my classroom getting into everything.

What would you suggest parents do with their other children in this case? What about sole parents? Parents who have partners deployed? Areas without childcare facilities?

 

[MamaBelle4]

Try having a parent/teacher conference under those conditions. I’m forced to do it all the time usually with multiple siblings running around my classroom getting into everything.

I bring my children to parent teacher conferences. I could have them stay home with DH, but he likes to be involved and as he works while they're in school, this is really his only opportunity and I want to be there too.

They sit on the floor and read to each other or play with blocks or draw on the white board at the teacher's invitation. I always thought teachers preferred that the parents made the effort to be involved more so than being upset that younger children were in attendance, or is it only when the children are disruptive that it's upsetting?

 

[Summer2018]

What would you suggest parents do with their other children in this case? What about sole parents? Parents who have partners deployed? Areas without childcare facilities?

The vast majority of my students’ families not only have both parents, they have grandparents, and other extended family living with them in the home. There are plenty of adults available to watch the children for that short period of time.

However, if parents are unable to secure childcare for the 15 minute meeting, they could try setting expectations for good behavior and have their child color or read quietly or play with the legos that I always leave out for them instead of trashing my entire classroom.

I raised my DD to be respectful toward people and property and to behave herself. I could take her anywhere, and she would act like a lady. She has impeccable manners and self-control.

I don’t think I am asking a lot.

 

[Summer2018]

I bring my children to parent teacher conferences. I could have them stay home with DH, but he likes to be involved and as he works while they're in school, this is really his only opportunity and I want to be there too.

They sit on the floor and read to each other or play with blocks or draw on the white board at the teacher's invitation. I always thought teachers preferred that the parents made the effort to be involved more so than being upset that younger children were in attendance, or is it only when the children are disruptive that it's upsetting?

It’s when they are disruptive and the parents get distracted during the meeting. I speak with most parents regularly, but some parents don’t do drop offs and/or pick ups so these meetings might be the only time that I get to discuss their child’s progress.

 

[MamaBelle4]

It’s when they are disruptive and the parents get distracted during the meeting. I speak with most parents regularly, but some parents don’t do drop offs and/or pick ups so these meetings might be the only time that I get to discuss their child’s progress.

Yeah, I get that. The most disruptive the kids were this past round of conferences was when my 2 year old came running over from the carpeted area to show me and her big sister's teacher the building she built out of Legos. She showed us, then went right back at playing. I try to teach my kids to be respectful, but they have meltdowns like any kid their ages, luckily, the girls' school schedules the book fair and conferences at the same time, so we get the kids each a new book to read during the conferences that they can choose themselves or the teachers offer blocks.

I'm just rambling now. Probably because I'm stinking exhausted. So, yeah. I get what you're saying.

 

[mjkacmom]

What would you suggest parents do with their other children in this case? What about sole parents? Parents who have partners deployed? Areas without childcare facilities?

Pay a babysitter? I have 5 and not once brought them to open houses or conferences. It’s not rocket science.

 

[jrmasm]

Try having a parent/teacher conference under those conditions. I’m forced to do it all the time usually with multiple siblings running around my classroom getting into everything.

Back to School night last fall, the teacher brought her own kid. He was completely disruptive during her talk to the parents. And he was about 9 or 10.

 

[Pink Partridge]

Try having a parent/teacher conference under those conditions. I’m forced to do it all the time usually with multiple siblings running around my classroom getting into everything.

What would you suggest parents do with their other children in this case?

I suggest parents not allow their kids to run around and get into everything. Your kids should sit silently with a book, or headphones if they have to attend any type of adult meeting.

 

[jevs]

Pay a babysitter? I have 5 and not once brought them to open houses or conferences. It’s not rocket science.

I’ve never taken my children to open houses, conferences, or to work. I have however taken my children to parent teacher interviews because I work under the assumption that a school would be tolerant of children. I guess it might be a regional thing.

Congratulations on 5 children. I wasn’t aware there was a contest, but I guess you win

 

[jevs]

I suggest parents not allow their kids to run around and get into everything. Your kids should sit silently with a book, or headphones.

Actually, they sit quietly with their smart phones until it is their turn if it is a student led parent/teacher interview.