Mackenzie Click-Mickelson
Chugging along the path of life
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You're welcomethanks for the lesson.
You're welcomethanks for the lesson.
Budget and DIY-type events still warrant the same gift on my end and are still done. I don't think cake and punch weddings are very common in the NE although I've heard of them happening in the Midwest and South; attended one in MI and a great time was had by all. That was during my earlier days in life ("starving" college student) so the gift was 2 Tiffany champagne flutes which were my go to present at the time.Just one question though - if you attend a very modest wedding do you adjust the gift down accordingly? Maybe nobody in your circle does budget DIY-type events or cake-and-punch or things like that; here practically anything goes.
Budget and DIY-type events still warrant the same gift on my end and are still done. I don't think cake and punch weddings are very common in the NE although I've heard of them happening in the Midwest and South; attended one in MI and a great time was had by all. That was during my earlier days in life ("starving" college student) so the gift was 2 Tiffany champagne flutes which were my go to present at the time.
Just one question though - if you attend a very modest wedding do you adjust the gift down accordingly? Maybe nobody in your circle does budget DIY-type events or cake-and-punch or things like that; here practically anything goes.
That would have been cruel to do that to my sister-in-law. Her wedding reception was at a club house of an HOA and consisted of KFC with some homemade cake pops, boxed wine and bud light. That was well below what type of wedding reception we've been to before. I would hate to think that people who would have given more opted to reduce their gift based on the reception type.I would. Same with kids parties-if someone has it at home I give less than if they have it out at a venue. And cake and punch weddings would get about what a kids birthday party does-never knew anyone to have that around here though.
The bride was from Biloxi, Mississippi and the groom from Ann Arbor, MI; this probably influenced menu choices to some degree.Cake and punch wedding receptions aren't the norm in Michigan based on my experience as a lifelong Michigander well past her starving college student days. I never even attended one in my starving college student days.
The bride was from Biloxi, Mississippi and the groom from Ann Arbor, MI; this probably influenced menu choices to some degree.
Don't know about Ann Arbor, but having lived in Biloxi I can tell you that cake & punch receptions there are normally a religious choice; they are typical of certain Southern Baptist denominations and also Church of God denominations. These are groups that abhor both alcohol and dancing, and they feel strongly that the reception should be lower-key than the ceremony itself. (I'm chuckling just a wee bit at giving champagne flutes to probable teetotalers.)
The bride and groom are definitely not teetotallers.Don't know about Ann Arbor, but having lived in Biloxi I can tell you that cake & punch receptions there are normally a religious choice; they are typical of certain Southern Baptist denominations and also Church of God denominations. These are groups that abhor both alcohol and dancing, and they feel strongly that the reception should be lower-key than the ceremony itself. (I'm chuckling just a wee bit at giving champagne flutes to probable teetotalers.)
Note to self. Buy glasses for cabanafrau from the dollar store should ever we meet.They were from Tiffany though.
Note to self. Buy glasses for cabanafrau from the dollar store should ever we meet.
It'll make her feel more "real".
What you can afford and how close you are. Mainly...what you can afford. I remember reading threads like this as a first year teacher who was working an additional job to afford rent and student loans. A $100 wedding gift would have meant I didn’t eat for two weeks. I gave a thoughtful gift that cost $20 (A picnic basket with a bottle of wine and a letter saying what I loved about the couple). People who would turn their noses up at that would be people I wouldn’t hang out with. Close friends and family were just happy I was there. Now, I can give $100 comfortably. Everything is relative.
No need. Leave all the worries about how I feel to me.
No idea why pointing out they weren't random, but considered special is offensive. Was that not your whole point in mentioning the brand?
My sister and I had a go to gift from Tiffany's back in the days: crystal champagne flutes. Cost about $20.00 a piece back then and still came in those lovely iconic blue boxes. This is the newer version which no longer has a bowl that extends to the base yet the price is still quite reasonable:
https://www.tiffany.com/jewelry/items/trumpet-flute-set-37212377?omcid=ppc_google_PLA+-+Home+-+US&utm_source=google&utm_term=&utm_campaign=PLA+-+Home+-+US&utm_medium=cpc&utm_content=1dJSjlGh|pcrid|94556209933|pkw||pmt||pdv|c|targetids|pla-337820476693|groupid|23027671093|&mkwid=s1dJSjlGh|pcrid|94556209933|pkw||pmt||pdv|c|mtid|744dpc50313|slid||productid|37212377_PLN TRUMPT FLTE S2 CRYGLS|targetids|pla-337820476693|groupid|23027671093|&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIpPnt4c3v3QIVBkSGCh3sBwL8EAYYAiABEgKTZvD_BwE
In a different thread (thought it was this one) I wrote:
The brand is immaterial but the quality is not. They are well made and balanced crystal champagne flutes for a price that is good at many budgets. That was the point in mentioning the brand. Guess you missed seeing/noted or dinna participate in that thread.
I don't understand your "offensive" remark.
I would never have guessed people would base their gift on the venue/how much was spent on the party. Especially with a kids party.I would. Same with kids parties-if someone has it at home I give less than if they have it out at a venue. And cake and punch weddings would get about what a kids birthday party does-never knew anyone to have that around here though.
Don't know about Ann Arbor, but having lived in Biloxi I can tell you that cake & punch receptions there are normally a religious choice; they are typical of certain Southern Baptist denominations and also Church of God denominations. These are groups that abhor both alcohol and dancing, and they feel strongly that the reception should be lower-key than the ceremony itself. (I'm chuckling just a wee bit at giving champagne flutes to probable teetotalers.)
I would never have guessed people would base their gift on the venue/how much was spent on the party. Especially with a kids party.
So, if you attended the bridal shower and gifted something expensive off the registry what would you gift them money wise at the wedding? I bought a pricey item a few weeks ago for the shower and am contemplating the check amount for a wedding we are attending. I usually do $100 per person.