How can I nicely tell MIL I don't like her gift idea?

[anniemae]

Buy some earplugs and suck it up. Its a couple of hours for goodness sakes.
If for some reason DH no longer has any interest, he can always sell the tickets

This. Just go and people watch, take a break to walk around, go buy a t-shirt. It will be over before you know it.

Or, you could tell your MIL that she is more than welcomed to buy the tickets but she must be the one to go with him!

 

[amberpi]

My interest has been piqued too.

I bet it's Chris Stapleton. I'd deal with a hundred soccer matches over that guy. He's the one musical act that divides our family.

 

[MrJT]

My interest has been piqued too.

I'm gonna say KISS. They've got a huge tour starting next year, supposed to be the final one, and new dates into at least September have been announced recently, and the OP has met, and is not a fan of, Paul Stanley.

 

[anniemae]

Okay I just read you post telling us what band it is. I may have to change my answer................LOL! Not sure I could handle that.

 

[Turksmom]

I'm gonna say KISS. They've got a huge tour starting next year, supposed to be the final one, and new dates into at least September have been announced recently, and the OP has met, and is not a fan of, Paul Stanley.

I did reply to someone with the band name earlier and you are correct!

 

[jrmasm]

Have your husband take his mother to the concert.

 

[kaytieeldr]

Is it the Stones? They just announced a concert in our city. I saw them in 1981, and I thought they were old then! Mick Jagger is 75 now!

I was thinking the same, but she can't despise the Stones this much. Can she?

Yes, this! Unfortunately, he has this weird idea that married couples are supposed to do these things together. He'll decide if I don't want to go, he won't either, but then he'll pout. I'd really prefer that he would go with a friend and have fun.

does he have a friend or close acquaintance who would love to see the band live?

 

[lovin'fl]

It would be like my MIL getting DH tickets to Ohio State game or Edmonton Oilers. I'd NOT want to go with him and would just suggest he take a friend and he would. He'd actually really like that. Neither of us would be excited for any concert tickets. It might be like him getting tickets to a Broadway show which I also don't like and he kinda does (well, not really, but his family likes to go and when we did trip to NYC with them we had to see Wicked and I was not thrilled...so he now claims he likes the shows yet whenever we cruised over the years I can never get him to go to the shows on the ship nor the shows at Disney...so I call BS on his liking Broadway). But if we got tix for Xmas, I'd just let DD go in my place.

Though I do also have issues with the gifts the grandmas buy. It used to bug me a lot but I have just learned to let it go. It's not worth the stress and anxiety. I always felt bad that many gifts went in the goodwill bin or were re-gifted. But I don't care to upset the grandmas by making a stink about it. When they ask me or show me what they want to get, I will say 'no, they won't like that' but I'll leave it at that and most of the time I am not heard.If they ask for suggestions, I will give them (though they even get it worng when told...ie: white button down for DH and MIL bought an odd old-man style that DH won't like). Luckily, this year my mom said she wasn't up for shopping (after knee replacement) so she just wanted to get them each 1 big thing and I suggested gift cards and she agreed and allowed me to buy them for her. This will likely be the best Xmas my college aged kids have had due to getting the gift cards. But my mom will feel like it's the worst because she didn't personally buy items they could open. But they will so love the gift cards and using them.

 

[MrJT]

I did reply to someone with the band name earlier and you are correct!

You can always have her buy me the tickets! That way I don't have to drop about $100 for two cheap tickets on Monday.

 

[JaxDad]

Don't you want to rock and roll all nite?

 

[Turksmom]

You can always have her buy me the tickets! That way I don't have to drop about $100 for two cheap tickets on Monday.

If only you could convince my husband to take you!

 

[Turksmom]

Don't you want to rock and roll all nite?

I absolutely do not. Nor do I wish to party every day. That's not true, I'd do both of those, just not with Kiss.

 

[wvjules]

I don't think it's fair to tell her NO because YOU don't want to go. It's not for you.

I, personally, wouldn't buy tickets to go see KISS but if someone gave them to me as a gift, I'd certainly go and enjoy myself. So I think asking if he'd like to go see them won't be a really accurate answer. I'd go see them, as a gift, but not on my dime so if someone asked me, my reply would instinctively be "no". But I'd go if someone else was paying. lol

And how can anyone NOT like Chris Stapleton?????

 

[Hikergirl]

Y'all don't have kids, do you?

Because having kids means all kinds of concerts & birthday parties & recitals & other social obligations, & you learn very quickly how to fake 2-3 hours of pleasantness. LOL!

LOL, this!!
I had to suck up a Hannah Montana concert w/ the Jonas Brothers and a High School Musical one for my dd. Pure torture times 3

 

[nkereina]

I'm not a KISS fan either, but I could tolerate it for a night - fun people watching and at least you know you'll never have to go to one again (since its the last tour - LOL!)

But if you're firm that you won't go and/or don't think DH cares that much about it, I would still say you should just be upfront with MIL. Those tickets will be expensive.

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

My MIL asked about buying concert tickets for my husband (in reality, she'll probably make it to both of us) as a Christmas gift. The problem is I would rather scrape dog doo off my shoe with my bare hand than attend this show. I'd be happy to see hubby go with a friend, but from experience, I know he won't. I'm pretty sure it will cause an argument between hubby and I and since the concert date is 9 months after Christmas, I can probably look forward to multiple arguments. I'd like to find a way to discourage MIL without making her son sound like a jerk (he's not in most situations, but definitely weird about this one)

If we had a dime for everything we've done with each other or with the kids that one of us likes and the other not so much, I'd own the dis. Sometimes you just have to take one for the team.

 

[MrJT]

If only you could convince my husband to take you!

Are you in San Antonio?

 

[wenrob]

Kiss. I was trying not to say because I will admit they're iconic and I don't want to offend anyone who is a fan, but I also don't want to create excess drama.

Oh. Tell her thanks but no thanks. Only show I’ve ever walked out on in my life. They were TERRIBLE and Paul Stanley was such a...jerk.

 

[Turksmom]

I'm not a KISS fan either, but I could tolerate it for a night - fun people watching and at least you know you'll never have to go to one again (since its the last tour - LOL!)

But if you're firm that you won't go and/or don't think DH cares that much about it, I would still say you should just be upfront with MIL. Those tickets will be expensive.

The nice thing is all of the posts telling me to deal with it for the night have made me realize how very strongly I feel about not doing that. I really should be able to say no to something I find unpleasant. I don't want to say no to something on behalf of my husband because that isn't my place and if he would enjoy it, I'd be happy to see him go, but as you said those tickets are expensive, so I don't want MIL to spend $ on something he won't use. We've thrown out tickets before because I can't go for whatever reason (not just don't want to- this is actually the only thing I've said no to because I just don't want to) and he won't go by himself or with a friend.

 

[Turksmom]

Oh. Tell her thanks but no thanks. Only show I’ve ever walked out on in my life. They were TERRIBLE and Paul Stanley was such a...jerk.