I don't know if he even wants to go, so I don't know if he'd see it as a missed opportunity or not. She's adamant about not asking directly, but that's the only way I know of to find out if he wants to go even if I do not. I don't think MIL would "throw me under the bus", so to say, but I wouldn't expect her not to tell husband if the subject comes up.
I think you're right. I was looking for a way that i wouldn't be the bad guy because it is a nice idea and I'd like for him to go if he wants (Just not with me!), but I am definitely not going to give on this one, so I'll have to take the responsibility for that.
If he knows your reasons it doesn’t matter if they’re good ones or not he should be willing to go with someone else.
I have to agree, I’d just lay it out there for her. If you feel you can’t do that then honestly, if it were me I’d lay out the dilemma to my DH and let him choose. I’m sure I’ll get backlash for that but that’s how we roll.
Or, you would not believe how long the lines are to use the women's bathroom!
No, I do not.
Haven’t you ever had something just completely turn you off? Those kind of feelings stick around even if the incident is not likely to be repeated. I personally would not want to drag someone to something I KNOW they would find unpleasant.
I used to work at the venue, so I don't think he'll believe I got turned around.I think you risk that your husband will refuse the next time you want him to do something that's important to you. So if you're willing to play that card on an event that is only 3 hours, then intervene with the MIL. Is she going to throw you under the bus with your husband? I'd personally bring ear plugs and suck it up. I'd probably go missing 15 minutes into the concert and come back for the last 30 with an excuse. Woops, I got turned around and couldn't find my way back
Are they opening for someone or do they at least have a decent opener?
A dog is a daily commitment for 10-15 years. That’s not the same as a 4 hour concert.
Not in a couple of decades. We figured out real quick that we don’t need to do that. He doesn’t insist on dragging me into the “wilderness” (the lake, camping, fishing etc.) and I don’t insist he go to craft fairs, antique malls, photography outings etc. There’s middle ground of course. I’ll go to a “cabin” with full amenities and be happy to kick it on the porch while he goes fishing and he’ll go on the hunt with me for something for the house. In your example I’d ask that he join the family but wouldn’t insist that he ski. If either of us had strong feelings about something as the OP seems to we wouldn’t even ask.
See DH & I do this all the time. I’ll tell him your mom is asking if you’d like something & I don’t know. I’ll ask him does if he wants me to tell him & usually he does. He does the same for me.
I can’t do that genre either for the most part. My taste in music is actually pretty eclectic, but that’s where I draw the line.Maybe tell MIL you'd like a hotel gc to rock and roll all night? That might make her change her mind
@Wendy31 - sorry to disappoint. I know the Stapleton hate is weird. But, god, no. My husband doesn't like Lord Huron, so I reckon there's no accounting for taste
Good luck OP, sounds like you have good relationships but just really want your DH to do his own thing on this one. Understandable in context of the full picture.
