I think my husband and I have talked about it before. I would NOT discuss it with my husband dying! He is a bit too fragile for that( he is a big manly type of man too
) That would be so heartless to do that to him. You know, that whole "you're not even dead yet but I'm already thinking of moving on and forgetting about you" thing would just kill him that much faster. Or maybe make him fight a bit more to hang on
And at my age now, don't think I would want move on and go through all of that again. Once is good for me
Now, my husband, on the other hand...I totally expect him to move on pretty quickly. He doesn't like to be alone. AT ALL! Shoot, on my death bed I would probably tell him to get out there and find someone. I would want him to be happy. He would deserve it after being married to me for as long as he has!
When my Dad passed away with in 2 months people were asking if my Mom would start dating. She was 65. Young enough still but she just looked at those people and said " I've had the best no reason to try it again". And it took her a long time to get over Dad. At least 5 years to feel like herself again. To get her balance back, if you will. They had been married nearly 50 yrs.
My sister knew a woman who had a very aggressive breast cancer. Her husband was already "seeing" someone before she had even died. And within 3 months they were married. She said it was totally out of character for him. Don't think they stayed married either.