this is pretty much the same boat we are in. Right before my grandmother passed away (Almost 10 years ago) she purchased DVC for me knowing how much I loved Disney World and went yearly with my sister, sometimes more.
fast forward to now, I’m married with 3 kids. I don’t work, I home school them. We are lower end middle class income.
we paid (including my sister who is coming with us, so 6) $2500 for flights coming from upstate NY
$2600 for 4 days of park tickets
plan on $350 a day for food (So $2100)
and we don't have to pay for room because of DVC but pay a little over $550 a year in dues so it’s almost like staying in a value resort or offsite hotel?
that’s a LOT of money!
and because we didn’t take a vacation the last 2 years (just had a baby and then COVID after that) we spent a little extra money on some sit down character meals and after hours Christmas party
$$$$$$$$$$
I agree that is expensive, but when you break it down per person, that's about $1500 per person. Let's break it down further.
Flights = $500. That's going to be similar anywhere you travel with some fluctuation depending on time of year, where your going etc...
Food = $70/day per person. Anywhere you go, unless your buying groceries and preparing food, your going to okay something relatively similar. $5 McDonald's breakfast, $10 fast food lunch, $40 sit down dinner (tax and tip incl), that's atleast $55/day per person. So maybe you save a few hundred bucks in total. And those prices are assuming your not in a tourist location.
Hotel = $550. Not many places are you likely going to stay in desirable accommodations for much less than $110/nt. Yes there are places on the side of the road here and there, but not many in real tourist areas.
Until we discuss park tickets, the price of a Disney vacation is pretty much on par, with most other vacations at that level (excluding camping, or renting a place and cooking your own food type of vacations).
Park tickets = $2600 or $520 per person. Keep in kind that the 4 day ticket is probably the worst value ticket you can buy. Prices per day go down pretty significantly once you add more days.
Having said that, $130/day is expensive for entertainment. However, pretty much anywhere else you went, you would be paying for entertainment. Even if it's not $130/day per person, depending what you did, it can add up pretty quickly.
At the end of the day, Disney is not cheap. But it is pretty much on par with most other travel. The problem is, travel across the board has gotten much more expensive.