Mine are 33 and 35 now, but they went away to college at 18 but came home for all breaks and some weekends. They both came back home after graduation for a few months before starting their after college careers (worked during that time to fill the gap), but both moved out into apartments with at least one roommate before moving on to their own places. Oldest bought a townhouse at 24 by himself. Youngest and our DIL bought their first townhome at 31, but that was mainly due to a couple of moves out of state and back so they rented. Both had good jobs right out of college and worked during college part time. As I told people over the years our job was to raise independent adults, which we did. We did not give either of them any money for house down payments. We did pay for college and provide them with a car while they were in school, but raised them to support themselves. They're supposed to want to move out. We love our boys, but we didn't want them to be dependent on others so we made sure they could take care of themselves as fully functioning adults, like our parents did.
BTW, we live in a very high cost of living area - DC suburbs in NoVA. That also means jobs pay more and unemployment is low. If it's hard to find a good paying job where they're living, maybe they should consider moving somewhere where there are better paying jobs.
BTW, we live in a very high cost of living area - DC suburbs in NoVA. That also means jobs pay more and unemployment is low. If it's hard to find a good paying job where they're living, maybe they should consider moving somewhere where there are better paying jobs.
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