I also thought (and still think) therapists were frauds, so that idea was a waste.
I'm sorry you feel that way about therapy, @Klayfish. Its helped me immeasurably.
I also thought (and still think) therapists were frauds, so that idea was a waste.
My other kids are much younger (11) but there is just no way I would put up with that. They have to live in my home, she doesn't. Purposely causing unrest in my home is grounds for immediate dismissal. My stepbrother did this all our lives when we lived at home and I just have no tolerance for it. Your other kids should not have to tiptoe around her for fear of one of her moods and neither should you. If you truly think this is a case where she needs help then I agree with Pea n Me, getting help would be required to stay in my home. If she's just being pissy for the sake of being pissy then I'm with Klayfish here, she needs to discover the real world on her own.
I would be sure to find some quality time to spend with the younger siblings without her. Maybe even one on one time. I would worry what kind of toll this is taking on them. HOME is suppose to be everyone's safe spot. A place you can be relaxed and be yourself. Are the younger siblings having to walk on egg shells at home not knowing about her mood?
I'm sorry I don't have any advice in dealing with your daughter. FWIW, my college daughter saw her "pediatrician"
Until she went to college. He was a pediatrician and adolescent dr.
I'm sorry you feel that way about therapy, @Klayfish. Its helped me immeasurably.
I am no stranger to anxiety and depression. I'll just leave that at that. The post I quoted had the young lady purposefully antagonizing her brother. Not reacting to him out of frustration, purposely pushing his buttons. That would not be okay with me under any circumstances. Having someone move out on their own or insist that they get help is not shutting them out IMO it's giving them responsibility for themselves.Since the young adult in question has an autistic sibling it is likely she has spent a lot of her life "tip toeing" around him. I know my daughter spends her time being very cautious with my son and yes, sometimes she has had enough. It doesn't happen often but it does happen. I think the young adult in question clearly needs some mental health support and yes, a lot of family love.
I don't believe in shutting people out unless things are dangerous which it doesn't sound like they are.
This subject is very close to my heart as I have known three young adults who almost succeeded in taking their lives this past year. I have a daughter who suffers from depression and I can tell you that all the advice I have been given by mental health professionals is to have some boundaries but to make sure that above all they are love and safe and understood.
I agree with your last sentence, but think that can be open to interpretation.Since the young adult in question has an autistic sibling it is likely she has spent a lot of her life "tip toeing" around him. I know my daughter spends her time being very cautious with my son and yes, sometimes she has had enough. It doesn't happen often but it does happen. I think the young adult in question clearly needs some mental health support and yes, a lot of family love.
I don't believe in shutting people out unless things are dangerous which it doesn't sound like they are.
This subject is very close to my heart as I have known three young adults who almost succeeded in taking their lives this past year. I have a daughter who suffers from depression and I can tell you that all the advice I have been given by mental health professionals is to have some boundaries but to make sure that above all they are love and safe and understood.
I am no stranger to anxiety and depression. I'll just leave that at that. The post I quoted had the young lady purposefully antagonizing her brother. Not reacting to him out of frustration, purposely pushing his buttons. That would not be okay with me under any circumstances. Having someone move out on their own or insist that they get help is not shutting them out IMO it's giving them responsibility for themselves.
Of getting help? Or taking responsibility? Not sure I'm following.Insisting she see someone, even under duress could well be a gateway to her embracing the process.
Of getting help? Or taking responsibility? Not sure I'm following.
Healing is a choice.
I think it's great the pedis will see kids so long. For my DD, it was the only dr she had known. I was pleased she could still see him during that time when she might have had to look for a new dr. Especially when all these changes in life were going on like getting ready for college.The boys are accustomed to her attitude as we call it since it has been going on for so long. Everyone keeps to them selves. We all have own "space" and they really don't interact with each other. We do do things together and see each other, but mostly keep to themselves
My pedi sees the kids until they are 21 (I think). She is 20.