JMHO but it's tricky.
I was probably spoiled when it came to the financial side. We grew up with a housekeeper, has our own cars and paid zero for our educations. Both my brother and I have received generous "gifts" over the years when we've had large life expenses like purchasing a house. We had these things because, waaaay back in the '60s when very, very few women worked, my mother had a fairly serious career. However, my parents weren't the types to come to a school play or read bedtime stories. To be honest my father was probably never meant to be a parent but in 1960 that's what nice boys did. I know he did his best but warm and fuzzy is just not in his DNA. Our mom was more affectionate but tended to spoil us out of guilt over her job which was a twelve hour a day, 5/sometimes 6 days a week kind of thing. In general we received no guidance and very little discipline even though my brother and I ran wild as teens. In the end we both became stay at home parents and are not very "stuff" oriented. My brother is actively non-materialistic, I just don't really care one way or the other.
DH's mom stayed home and he says that he always had more attention than he ever wanted. My MIL was one of the warmest, most soft hearted people you could ever meet. I adored her. His dad was also very involved-Scout leader, helped DH and his brothers with their lawn mowing "business", did projects with them etc. Money, however, was always very tight. DH wore a lot of hand me downs and ate a lot of tuna noodle casserole. It took him 5 years to get his degree because he had to work full time and support himself while he was in school. My folks sent me a monthly check (separate from tuition/room/board) which I promptly blew on beer and general debauchery.
Here's the thing-we're both envious of the other's childhood.
We chose the broke but lots of parental involvement route with our two and who knows if that was right. We ended up with one very ambitious, career oriented kid (daughter) and one (son) who becam an English teacher largely, I suspect, because it's more stable than actor/writer and he gets his summers off, that apple fell very close to the tree!