PollyannaMom
I was a click-clack champ!!
- Joined
- May 16, 2006
Actually, that’s the worst part and not eligible for ‘kudos’. Making big threats is not noteworthy. It’s telling your kids that you’re crazy people who take away big things for minor infractions. You may eventually get cooperation and compliance but what have you lost? Kids need to trust their parents to lead them. Not be frightened to piss them off.
I didn't give kudos for making a big threat. (In fact, I said I wouldn't personally threaten loss of a trip.) But I did reassure him that following through on a threat already made is not something to feel guilty for. (Obviously, we're all taking about threats regarding loss of privileges, not physical abuse.)
I've always tried very hard not to make threats that I wasn't comfortable following through on. But I think that if you do decide to make a threat that you are comfortable with, you have to follow through on it or that's how you lose trust. - Your kids will not take your next threat (or your next 27!) seriously, because they know 'you don't always mean it'.
So with flights and days off work and reservations the lesson being taught....goes out the window because the trip would still go on?
I don't think everyone who said no is letting poor behavior go unanswered, just admitting that there are some things not on the chopping block as punishments for them. - Whether it's for financial reasons or personal ones, they would simply choose a different consequence.