siren0119
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Sep 26, 2018
Can only speak from my own experiences - lost my mom very suddenly 22 years ago when she was 44. It was absolutely weird the first few holidays - just felt off kilter, her presence was a tangible void and we weren't really sure how to adjust to it. For me, her loss hasn't necessarily gotten "easier" over the years....just different. The edges are softer. Holidays can still have their weird moments now and then, but we have a new normal. I've been intentional about incorporating things that were quintessentially "her" into our celebrations, and telling my kids (who were born after she passed) about her and what those things meant to her and why they're special to our family. It hits me at odd times too. Some years, it's the milestones and holidays that get me missing her. Some years, it's a random third Tuesday and I just get flooded with thoughts of her. It's unpredictable at best. But I've learned to embrace those moments when I grieve again because it keeps her fresh in my mind and gets me looking out for signs of her in my life.