Most of the people on this thread seem to be rational thinking people who understand that leaving a 5 year old child alone in a running car is dangerous, perhaps criminal.
The rest of you who seem to be coming up with any/every excuse you can think of and running all these irrelevant scenarios to justify lazy a*s, pathetic parents and their parenting "styles" are somewhat pathetic yourselves. It almost comes off like you are trying to justify your parenting and the choices you are making with your children. What's that Shakespeare line about "Me thinks he doth protest too much . . .?"
At the very least you seem to be unaware of the fact of how many neglected and abused children there are in the U.S. Or that because you don't personally know a child who has been abused/victimized/traumitized that it doesnt' happen EVERY SINGLE DAY in this country. Our foster care system is OVER FLOWING with thousands and thousands of children because they had terrible neglectful parents - those kids are now praying, begging for a parent. I bet they would be more than happy to have one of those parents that you people ignorantly classify as helicopter parents.. Every single day children are hospitalized or die because their parents were neglectful in some capcity, whether it be malicious or not. Defending ignorant people who make ignorant choices that affect the well being of their children is inexcusable. Period.
Can I get a Ding Ding ?!?
Let's follow your lack of logic out to it's conclusion. You think all parents who YOU declare to be neglectful to lose their children to the foster care system, which is insanely overcrowded already. Then you think a bunch of wonderful parents that are like-minded as you are going to step up to adopt all the poor children who were abandoned by their parents while they bought some milk and bread at the store. This only makes sense in la-la land. The truth would be that if there was some sort of crack down on school age children left in cars in parking lots as their parents picked up a few items the system would completely shut down. There would be kids needing foster families everywhere. I have some friends who are foster parents, they take in severely abused children or severely neglected children (like mom goes out for 2-3 days at a time leaving toddlers to fend for themselves while she sells herself for drug money). Those are the kids the system is for, those are the kind it helps. It isn't there so any parent you disagree with can have their kids ripped from them and placed with another family. Do you have any idea of the kinds of abuse that goes on in foster homes???
What if someday someone disagrees with you on one of your parenting decisions, should they have the right to call the authorities and rip your kids away? Maybe you think that at 11 your son should be able to walk 4 blocks to school, maybe someone else thinks you're a bad lazy mom for allowing that and decides to have your son taken away to live with a good mom who will chauffeur his little butt to the next door neighbors house so he never has to walk!
I am a very good mother, I am extremely involved in my kids lives. I participate in cub scouts and girl scouts and all their events at school. I also expect my kids to be able to do some things on their own as they grow up. It's really all about perspective. Last summer I set up a tent in our fenced backyard for my daughter to have friends spend the night. None of the moms would let their kids sleep outside, they could spend the night but only in the house, my daughter came up to me and told me how sad that was that none of their mom's trusted them and then told me how glad she is that I trust her!
Can anyone think of one story out there of a kid being kidnapped from a store parking lot. There was the one of the boy who was in the car and the guy shoved him out and he was tangled in the belt and dragged to death, tragic yes, common NO. And it was not an intentional kidnapping, the guy didn't want the kid, only the car. There's also the story yesterday of the 2 year old "missing" a hour later. That is hardly a normal story, I'm betting the mom did something to him and that is her cover story. Can anyone think of an actual incident where a child has been intentionally kidnapped out of a crowded parking lot??? Anyone??? My guess is it has happened somewhere, sometime, just as just about anything you could think of probably happened somewhere, sometime to someone. But it doesn't make it common, or something to fear.
As for our little ding dong common sense bell ringing friend. Here's a true story for you (as opposed to your totally untrue reports of that Smart kid who was just found who had been missing for 15 years
). A woman from Europe was here in the States with her baby. She went to a coffee house and parked her stroller outside the door with her sleeping baby and went in to get some coffee. A busybody (like coolwade) called in cops instead of stepping into the coffeeshop to ask who's baby this was. The cops came and questioned her on allegations of child neglect and abandonment. She was shocked. In her country this is a normal custom, no one brings strollers inside, everyone leaves babies in strollers outside coffee shops, boutiques, cafes, etc. She is freed and leaves the country immediately going home to tell everyone she knows about how American's have no common sense. Of course she hadn't neglected or abandoned her baby she was right in the shop, only a few feet away.
So common sense in not universal, what may be common to one is not common to another in another culture. It does not make one smart and one dumb, it doesn't make one fit to have children and another not. America, along with other English speaking countries lead the way in over protectiveness, to our great demise. I for one will not go along with it, I will not live ruled by the fear of the incredibly unlikely! In most other cultures including most of Europe you will see young children riding trains by themselves, walking home alone, at very young ages, usually 5 and up. It is nothing to have a 5 year old go into the store alone to buy milk and bread without mom!