Okay, now we are trying to use small third world developing countries to justify this?
Hahahaha!!!!
I consider those who are 'on their own time', and would keep others waiting well past a stated specific time to have a personality flaw.
I'm not sure it's a cultural thing. To me it's a respect thing.
They would be dumbfounded to hear that their being late was considered rude to other people, it's just not something that would cross their mind.
LOL, has anyone ever told them?
If someone is always late, they clearly aren't even making an attempt to be on time. It tells me they either don't realize or don't care that their behavior may affect others around them.
I understand there are cultural differences, and I try to be tolerant. I guess because of where and how I was raised, it's hard to be tolerant of a culture that apparently lacks the concept of common courtesy.
And see, if I am the hostess then I make sure to have things set up before the time on the invitation because that is the polite thing to do. I expect and would hope my guests have enough respect to not be late. If I say the event starts at 2:00 then I plan on the event to START at 2:00, not 2:15 or 2:30. So I am ready for guests to arrive by 1:45 or so.For business events--you should be on time, or a few minutes early. However, for social events, it's actually pretty rude to be early, and people expect you to be a tad late. I know when I'm a hostess, I panic if I see a car showing up 10 minutes ahead of time, and while I know people may show up on time, the norm is 10-15 minutes late. For a lunch, "starting at noon" is really show up at 12:15, and we'll eat within a half hour of that. The only people who should actually be early or punctual to a social event are those so close to the host/hostess that they are helpers.
I suppose we'll have to agree to disagree. They don't see time as a "concept of common courtesy" and that's the underlying difference here. Most people on this thread see it as a simple black/white matter - you're rude if you're not on time because that is what our culture taught us growing up. It's how I was raised too, so I understand that. But if someone does not come at the issue with the idea that being late is rude it changes the entire scenario. If their culture does not base rudeness on a predefined arrival time then they will see things differently. But that is a concept that people here are not willing to wrap their minds around apparently.
To me, it doesn't matter if it's cultural... unless you live in the culture where it doesn't matter. I know that sounds weird, but let me explain.
There are cultures in which time doesn't matter. If you live there, you have to go with the flow. If you don't live there, it's just plain rude, disrespectful, and self-serving.
In America, especially in business, time does matter, and therefore, you should be punctual. I realize that life happens... there's a wreck on the interstate, the baby pukes on you on the way out the door, etc. But those things should be the exception, not the rule. And if you show up late to everything with some "reason" (excuse), then clearly the problem is your lack of planning ahead.
I am the oldest of seven kids. My dad traveled a lot for work. My mom had to get all seven of us places by herself the majority of the time. Do you know how many times we were late? I can probably count them on one hand. Mom planned... and then planned for the unexpected. It taught me a great lesson in preparation. Mom is still timely even though everyone has moved out on their own. When Mom says to arrive at 5pm, guess when everyone arrives? No later than 5pm. When she says we'll eat about 5:30, we're filling plates at 5:30. If you want to be late, fine. But we don't wait for you, and unless you called and something ridiculous happened to keep you from being on time, we certainly don't save a plate for you.
The problem I see with most of my peers (moms with elementary aged kids) is that they have no concept of how long things actually take. How many minutes does it actually take for you to get from point A to point B? It may take 7 minutes to drive there. But that doesn't include the amount of time it takes to get everyone in the car, run back in the house for something that was forgotten, get where you're going (with an extra few minutes to account for traffic), park, and get inside. People don't build that time into their trip, so they can't understand why in the world they're late. If it takes me 20 minutes to get from my door to the door of the gym for my son's class, I leave 30 minutes before it starts. I always build in a time cushion for traffic or unforseen circumstances. My kids are basically neurotic about being on time - they're worse than I am. They've seen their friends walk into classes, parties, and events late and could never imagine that being a habitual thing in their life.
My husband served in the USMC, and unless you're 15 minutes early, you're late. His family, although his Dad was career Army, cannot be anywhere on time. Ever. It's like time doesn't exist in their universe. He hates it. When we visit them, we are on our timetable, they're on theirs.
I don't know if its culture or location based, but I am a punctual person and I really hate when things don't start on time. It is a huge pet peeve of mine.
When I have birthday parties for my kids which have specific start and end times so many people arrive late. If the invite says 2, you arrive at 2. Then when people come late, it delays the start of the party and then the kids have less time doing the activity.
Work meetings are the same, although many people have back to back meetings so I do give a 5 min grace period.