Hi Everyone
Well, it's now over 6 weeks and Miles is still here fighting... He is very weak now and needs his oxygen supply 24/7, but he is still able to drink his 'meal' shakes and has a few lucid hours every day.
We finally had a 'phone call from Christies on Monday afternoon offering us an appointment the following morning, but Miles is too ill to travel other than by ambulance and we tried everywhere, but it was too short notice to arrange a transfer, so now we have to wait for another appointment. We talked it through with our GP and Macmillan nurse and they both felt that Miles was too ill to try the journey anyway, especially as it is likely they could only confirm bad news and tell us there is nothing they can try either.
Miles has now lost a third of his bodyweight and is so very emaciated, I think it would be delusional of me to think chemo would even be a possibilty, and Miles has said that he isn't sure he would want to try it anyway. He values what little quality of life he has too much to risk it for something that at best might offer him a very little amount of extra time. Although his cancer is pancreatic, and has spread to other places, it is the secondary tumours in his lungs that are the biggest issue, and we are told they are so hard to do anything about. It is his decision, and I will support him 100% whatever he wants to do - regardless of how certain other people in his family may feel...
We've had a few difficult days this week - Miles had awoke mid panic attack in the middle of the night on Tuesday and really thought that his time had come, he couldn't get his breath at all and his pulse was so fast... I have to admit I thought I might have been losing him. I felt so helpless, all I could do was hold him and tell him how much we loved him and listen to what he thought were going to be his last words. My heart is still breaking now... He says that it hadn't really hit him until then how little time he had - he never asked how long he had and doesn't know what I was told. Our Macmillan nurse didn't think he would make it through August yet here we are, he is such a fighter!
We shall keep trying to make the most of every minute that we have, even if the best we can manage is watching a little TV together as a family... It's funny how the most mundane of things can suddenly be a source of pleasure.
Thanks for 'listening' again and for all your thoughts and prayers - it really does help!
Amanda x