DH retired years before me due to health issues and then I retired but we found we were spending our savings to get by so I went back to work for a federal contractor. I enjoyed working and the outside contacts and I would have kept working if his health didn't require moving to a one-story home. So we sold our home, moved out west and find ourselves still adjusting to both being home together. He has always cooked and grocery shopped so no adjustment there but he resents my 'alone time' and need to be upstairs working on my hobbies all day. He's big into online role-play gaming so that does distract him. Recently DH suggested that we travel more which is exactly what I'd like to do! Sometimes I want to find a part-time flexible job or an at home job but it's good to be available to work on my photography and scrapbooking and to travel whenever we want!
In some ways I have it much better than a good friend. Her DH retired before her and when she finally retired he assumed that she would fix breakfast, lunch and dinner for him as she always did on weekends before. He's a very good husband who has always helped her with dishes and cleaning but once she was home full-time he wanted her to pick up all these meals along with everything else she does. In addition, he refuses to give up their 4,500 sq ft home for a smaller easier to care for place. I'm afraid she may never get time to enjoy her hobbies and friends!