Girls trip, I'm booking my own room..not sharing.... now there's drama...

[design_mom]

The only time it would bother me is if the trip was planned and budgeted based upon people sharing rooms. If one person decided (after the planning) that they wanted their own room, that would leave someone else without a roommate. Even if the person who wanted their own room was willing to pay, I doubt they'd be willing to pay for the now-without-a-roommate person's single room too. I don't think that's really fair.

However, that doesn't sound like what happened in the OP's case. The OP was up-front about getting her own room (if she went at all) from the beginning, and the accidentally-assigned roommate was able to find another roommate easily, so it doesn't sound like it will affect her plans/cost at all. In this case, unless we're missing something, I have no idea why "B" is bent out of shape.

I have shared rooms on trips before too... but as I get older, I aslo prefer my own room (or my own hotel room versus staying with a friend's family, etc.)

 

[Wishing on a star]

Ohhhh good freakin' greif....
I stand by my post....
Jen, 'disagreed', with other posts.... while defending the idea of not only sharing rooms, but sharing beds.
In response to that, my post was totally on-topic and appropriate.
You guys really have no limits. No limits at all.
Gotta give you kudos for effort!!!!!!

Ohhhh, and on top of that... I was actually attacked and name-called. (weird)
Ummmm, that's always nice!

The very idea that my own bed or my own drink is considered too much to ask tells me a LOT about a person.
Just sayin'
There are people who have issues if another person doesn't want to choose to share a room/bed and/or a drink with them.
I am actually being questioned, flamed, and attacked for that.
Pretty much just totally gives credibility to what I posted.

 

[soccerdad72]

Ohhhh good freakin' greif....
I stand by my post....
Jen, 'disagreed', with other posts.... while defending the idea of not only sharing rooms, but sharing beds.
In response to that, my post was totally on-topic and appropriate.
You guys really have no limits. No limits at all.
Gotta give you kudos for effort!!!!!!

Ohhhh, and on top of that... I was actually attacked and name-called. (weird)
Ummmm, that's always nice!

The very idea that my own bed or my own drink is considered too much to ask tells me a LOT about a person.
Just sayin'
There are people who have issues if another person doesn't want to choose to share a room/bed and/or a drink with them.
I am actually being questioned, flamed, and attacked for that.
Pretty much just totally gives credibility to what I posted.

I'm sure I'll get points for this - but get a grip.

The woman simply gave an example of her group of friends and even said they're an "anomaly"', so she knows that their girls' trips wouldn't work for others. For some reason, you took that post and ran with it, claiming that her group of friends were using it as some sort of "proof of friendship".

 

[SirDuff]

I'm sure I'll get points for this - but get a grip.

The woman simply gave an example of her group of friends and even said they're an "anomaly"', so she knows that their girls' trips wouldn't work for others. For some reason, you took that post and ran with it, claiming that her group of friends were using it as some sort of "proof of friendship".

Totally agreed.

My friend's and I do not travel as Jen's and hers do (haven't shared a bed when traveling with friends in years - and prefer my own room), but she was clearly referring to herself/her friends (hint - the word used was *shared* not *share* and obviously referred to what happened on her trip).

 

[mefordis]

I used to be envious of people going on girl's trips but I have to say, after reading this thread, I think I'm good.

 

[CarolAnn856]

Ohhhh good freakin' greif....
I stand by my post....
Jen, 'disagreed', with other posts.... while defending the idea of not only sharing rooms, but sharing beds.
In response to that, my post was totally on-topic and appropriate.
You guys really have no limits. No limits at all.
Gotta give you kudos for effort!!!!!!

Ohhhh, and on top of that... I was actually attacked and name-called. (weird)
Ummmm, that's always nice!

The very idea that my own bed or my own drink is considered too much to ask tells me a LOT about a person.
Just sayin'
There are people who have issues if another person doesn't want to choose to share a room/bed and/or a drink with them.
I am actually being questioned, flamed, and attacked for that.
Pretty much just totally gives credibility to what I posted.

Why are you intentionally ignoring the fact that Jen, and many, many others, are totally fine with people having their own room or bed? It's like you are picking and choosing parts of people's posts, disregarding other things they say, just so you can disagree with them. It makes no sense to me at all.

 

[Wishing on a star]

I spoke for myself, and nobody else....
I said, I am not sharing a bed.
I issued no personal judgement. (if two other consenting adults choose to share a bed, that is their own business... no judgment there... no ignoring. This thread is about somebody who does not want to share a room/bed)
Other posters questioned and judged and name-called. (which only serves to illustrate my point that there are, indeed, those for who that is an issue)
Whatever....
Carry on!
Get out the popcorn!!!!

 

[SirDuff]

I used to be envious of people going on girl's trips but I have to say, after reading this thread, I think I'm good.

There doesn't have to be drama. I've managed to have a number of drama-free trips with friends. It just depends on the "friends".

 

[mom2travel]

I would not be offended at all if a friend wanted her own room on a group trip. It's not like we're all socializing while we sleep!

 

[MickeyWaffles]

Deleted because I misread a post. My comments are no longer accurate.

 

[Gumbo4x4]

OP, I think "B" is our school secretary!

Many of us from school went to an AVID training conference. We got to pay the $700 for the conference ourselves as well as our hotel rooms, flights, and rental cars. The conference was by a Marriott and as I had enough points I decided to stay at the Marriott instead of the sponsoring hotel, as did two other teachers. Another teacher used the Hilton for the same reason. Free vs. another $200/night we're picking free, especially since we get to pay for everything else out of our own pockets.

Our school secretary had a fit! How dare we split up the group. Sorry, but a few of us had our spouses coming with us and they were going to sight-see and play golf while we were in the conference. No way am I sharing a room with my husband and another couple, even though we're really good friends and have vacationed together before. If we have to pay for everything, we pick where we stay.

5 years later and our "B" still holds a grudge against all of us who made our own plans.

Your school doesn't pay for these trips?

 

[monsterkitty]

Your school doesn't pay for these trips?

Nope.

 

[Gumbo4x4]

Nope.

Yikes, if our school didn't pay, I guarantee nobody would go.

Oddly enough, DW passed on a conference this Summer because the host hotel booked up & it looked like they were going to have to drive back & forth between there and where they were to stay. They were even going to pay her salary for the time (she doesn't work Summers). Turns out, they wound up in the host hotel after all.

 

[ronandannette]

We did a spa weekend for my younger sister's bridal party. We rented a suite so we had to share rooms and shared beds. I slept with the bride as the others were friends with each other. Had not done that since we were kids at the grandparents. I was reminded why. My sister does (or did) midnight Kung Fu. The second night I order extra pillows and built a wall like Grannie used to build when we were kids. Her girlfriends laughed until I showed them the bruise on my leg. My kid does the same thing and I will always book a room so that she gets her OWN bed.

Depending on the circumstances, I might "go along to get along" with sharing a room but I'd sleep on the floor before sharing a bed. Even with my sister. Or maybe especially with my sister!

 

[MrsDuck]

Perhaps I wouldn't be offended because I hate sharing rooms too. If you're paying, why does it matter?

Tell B to back the heck off.

 

[cabanafrau]

Yowza, almost like OP was psychic with the title. There certainly is drama now, most emphatically so.

 

[BLAZEY]

Depending on the circumstances, I might "go along to get along" with sharing a room but I'd sleep on the floor before sharing a bed. Even with my sister. Or maybe especially with my sister!

Oh I would have booked a room of my own if there had been one available to book. Even when camping my sister had her own little tent.

 

[Jen414]

Too many folks to quote, so I'm not quoting anyone.

First, thank you to those who stuck up for me and got what I was saying about MY group of friends. The way we travel totally works for US. Again, though, we've been friends literally forever and started having sleepovers with each other in middle school. We are very used to one another and there are very few secrets. We have supported each other through marriages, births, miscarriages, divorces, houses burning to the ground, parent's deaths, sibling deaths, new jobs, lost jobs, kids leaving for college, etc. etc. Our trip is not a proof of friendship at all. It's a weekend away with forever-friends. No kids, no husbands, no boyfriends. This kind of trip with this many ladies probably wouldn't work for many, but it's what we do and no one has complained yet. And believe me, we are 11 strong women who have no problem speaking our mind if we're not happy with something.

Last month was our 18th girls weekend. When we are in hotels or bed and breakfasts, we tend to share beds. I share with the same person every time. Most of us do. When we are lucky enough to be in someone's parents' summer house, sometimes people get their own bed, but never everybody. How many summer houses have 11 beds? Again, this works for US. I'm not saying it would work for anyone else, just US. I am hoping that we have at least 40 more girls weekends. When someone decides that they either want their own bed or their own room, we will just adjust where we look to accommodate a friend's wishes. If that means more rooms, then we get more rooms. If that means a hotel or B and B doesn't have enough availability, then we look for another option. Isn't that what any friend would do? There will be no judgment. Honestly, if there was, are you really friends?

As far as sharing drinks and food--to each their own. If someone doesn't want to share, then they don't want to share. It doesn't mean they are less of a friend.

I had no idea that my response would start any drama. Just wanted to point out that some women do share beds on girls weekends.

Also--in October I am doing another girls weekend with a different set of friends. There are 7 of us. We are in a house that we rented on Home and Away, I think, that has 4 bedrooms so there will be bed sharing. Although never explicitly talked about, people will be sharing. (Everyone approved the house choice after viewing it online, so everyone knows this.) We have traveled together extensively for all-star cheer with our girls, but never without them. I don't anticipate any problems with this crew either, but you never know. Compared to our normal craziness of just getting to a cheer comp, sometimes halfway across the country through snowstorms, and then the insanity that goes along with the weekend, this should be a cake walk.

 

[daisyduck123]

I am a 50something mom....and No, I would not be offended at all.
In fact, if my girlfriends and I were to do something like this....I'm thinking I would get my own room too! I like the sound of that!

 

[aristocatz]

Unless its with my husband or kids, I am not a room sharer on vacation, so I would not be offended if others followed suit. I like my privacy & I don't get the opportunity to go on vacation that often. I wouldn't mind if it was like a multi-room situation, like a DVC 3 BR or something, because I would still have my own room, but I couldn't share a regular hotel room.

That all said, I would probably bail on the trip as well, if someone else going was running their mouth or stirring the ot about it. If she is stirring gthe pot now, she will most certainly continue to do it during the trip. Doesn't sound like it would pan out to be an enjoyable vacation, so not worth it.