One of my best friend's daughter and my friend's husband's son fell in love. The parents said "go ahead with this, but if/when you two break up, you had best not mess up our relationship (or try to). Then my friend left that husband for another man; the absolute to the threatened breakup happened. She must have been a heck of a woman, because that husband left her on his insurance since she had heart trouble and cancer. She has since passed away, daughter and husband are still married and very much in love. Your nephew and your BF's daughter should have been left alone to find their way and break up or not in their own time. You two blew it big time there.
Another best friend was dating a guy who was separated from his wife; she was the second person by her name that he had dated during this separation. My friend sent him back to his wife to try to work things out (she was a widow with four young children, his four children were a little older). When he actually divorced his wife, my friend married him. His children were told the entire time that my friend broke their marriage up; even his young grandchildren told her that she was a home wrecker. They were polite to her, but when he passed away she never heard from them again. We will never know which person of the same name was supposedly responsible, but my friend bore all the blame.
I honestly don't know what to tell you. There is so much screwed up in this story; I can't get over the fact that you two have lived apart all these years so I guess I can't approach the situation with advice. I'm sorry you are having this issue though.
Another best friend was dating a guy who was separated from his wife; she was the second person by her name that he had dated during this separation. My friend sent him back to his wife to try to work things out (she was a widow with four young children, his four children were a little older). When he actually divorced his wife, my friend married him. His children were told the entire time that my friend broke their marriage up; even his young grandchildren told her that she was a home wrecker. They were polite to her, but when he passed away she never heard from them again. We will never know which person of the same name was supposedly responsible, but my friend bore all the blame.
I honestly don't know what to tell you. There is so much screwed up in this story; I can't get over the fact that you two have lived apart all these years so I guess I can't approach the situation with advice. I'm sorry you are having this issue though.