luvsJack
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- Joined
- Apr 3, 2007
Deferring to text message instead of the normal phone call was nothing more than an attempt to control the situation in case OP pushed back. The second text doubled down on the attempt to draw OP to either react angrily, therefore making the friend the victim of the situation; or as a prompt for OP to offer up understanding and dismiss any idea that there was any reason to be upset. Silence on the subject or an entirely noncommittal response is the only way to go.
I have never in 55 years had an adult "double down" and demand a reaction such as "being in tears". Where do some of you meet these people??
I would never in a million years take it that way because I have never had anyone do such a thing. My response would probably be "yes, I am prostrate with grief at this very moment" and add to the text --said in a very Scarlett O'hara voice. Because I would take it as a joke and joke back with my friend.
And I would also have simply asked, what's the deal with the dog and how is he stopping you?