AnaheimGirl
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- May 31, 2005
meatballsmom said:I am not asking you not to nurse your child in public. It's impossible to speak to BFing mom's about our opinions. Nurse all you like. All I asked is that you do it discreetly. Is that so much to ask? I'm not trying to take away your ability to do so. Just don't whip our your breast and have a child attach itself to it (and I'm not talking babies). I've been places where woman do not use discretion and think nothing of having their breast out there for all to see. That's all I'm asking is that you cover up a bit. When some of you talk about breastfeeding a 4 yo, I don't know how that can be made discreet at all, and yes it makes me uncomfortable. Yes I know my children will be exposed to alot of things in life, but I as a mother I should have the choice as to when I want them exposed to certain things. Enough said on this subject for me because no matter how I ask for BFing in public mom's to be discreet, they are going to take my opinion as being against them (which for all of you reading, I am not).
I completely understand that you are not against bf or bf'ing moms. I completely agree with you that it should be done discreetly. I'm now going to paraphrase from a prior post of mine:
What bothers me though, is this expectation that a nursing mom is going to "whip out her breast", and that people feel the need to tell her not to, before they even know if she does it or not. Most nursing moms are discreet in public. It is the exception, rather than the rule, to see an exposed breast.
So, why are all bf'ing moms painted with that broad brush? To me, that is as offensive as projecting any other stereotype onto a group of people. If a bride-to-be noted on this board that she was going to be honeymooning at Disney, would anyone respond to her "just please don't play tonsil-hockey with your hubby in front of my kids. This couple in front of us in line for Peter Pan was totally going at it right in front of us, it was disgusting and I didn't know how to explain it to my kids"?? No, we all know it's wrong to take the behavior of a small portion of a group of people and project it onto the rest of the group. But this is done over and over on boards all over the internet with bf'ing moms. Why is it OK? Why don't some people realize how insulting it is to have people assume the worst in you, when you've given them no reason to do so?
Going back and looking at the OP, she clearly stated that she was going to be discreet:
so why did some posters feel the need to bring up stories of the exposed breasts they've seen and 6yo's bf'ing and all that? All of it is irrelevent to the OP's question, and reeks of nasty stereotypes.I expect that I won't need to breastfeed her more than once or twice a day while we are at the parks and I'll probably do the majority of the feedings at the Baby Care Centers