lovesmurfs
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Tell her that if she gets the tickets for DH for Christmas, it has to come with the strings attached that he take a friend and not his wife.
My kids love all of the other bands you mentioned, but not Kiss. I'm afraid they'd turn me in for child abuse.LOL- Kiss is one of the best concerts I have been to- my daughter started seeing them in concert when she was about 10 and loves them now. Can't one of your kids just go with your husband- most kids I know like the old bands now! I just went to a sweet 16 and the kid had the DJ playing Aerosmith, Kiss, Queen and AC/DC- one of the best sweet 16's I have been to!
Very nicely said! Thank you!So back to the original question of how do you nicely tell your MIL that you don't like her gift idea for your DH?
Here's an option to consider:
"That's a very thoughtful gift. But I don't know if he's still interested in seeing that band in concert. I could ask him for you, but that might spoil some of the surprise. On the other hand, if you give him tickets, he'll really want me to go with him. And I'm sorry, but I really REALLY don't want to see them in concert. I had a really negative experience with 1 of those band members a long time ago, so I'd rather do anything else than see them in person. DH could go with a friend. But I don't know if he'd want to. I'd hate to see you spend all of that money on tickets that we might not actually use."
Not going to happen, but your reply made me smile! Too bad you couldn't go in my place.Oh ............. had my answer all typed out as we've had this situation too but ..........
after I got to post about what the band name was ........ I couldn't relate.
I would go.
Good Luck
Not going to happen, but your reply made me smile! Too bad you couldn't go in my place.
I haven't been to a lot of concerts in my life, but nothing compares to KISS live. This will be my 4th and final time seeing them. And, it will be my most expensive time seeing them.If I could I would take the hit for you ... I've never seen them live, DS has and thought one of best shows he's been to.
A one night 3 hour concert is a bit of a different commitment than a dog.I understand what you are saying, but if it is going to cause some disagreement and unhappiness between spouses, it might not be worth it. I mean the DH might not really want it either.
What if MIL offered to get DH a puppy knowing he wanted a dog? Wife doesn't want the dog. Would you say that the MIL has to be allowed to get DH the present he wants to bring him enjoyment?
Didn’t read thru the thread... but I’d simply say.. it’s a great thought mom,but honestly it just isn’t a good idea for Xx. Perhaps I can try and get another idea for his gift this year. And either try to do that, or not.My MIL asked about buying concert tickets for my husband (in reality, she'll probably make it to both of us) as a Christmas gift. The problem is I would rather scrape dog doo off my shoe with my bare hand than attend this show. I'd be happy to see hubby go with a friend, but from experience, I know he won't. I'm pretty sure it will cause an argument between hubby and I and since the concert date is 9 months after Christmas, I can probably look forward to multiple arguments. I'd like to find a way to discourage MIL without making her son sound like a jerk (he's not in most situations, but definitely weird about this one)
I would not tell her "no" for him, only for myself. MIL is the one insisting on the surprise and it's her gift, so I'm respecting that. Husband has not said anything about the show, so I honestly think he doesn't really care about seeing them. Mom is coming over tomorrow, so I'll talk to her then.Curious what would your husband say if he finds out his mom was going to get these tickets and you told her no...maybe he would really love to see them . I think he should be involved in this one, who says it has to be a surprise.
I would not tell her "no" for him, only for myself. MIL is the one insisting on the surprise and it's her gift, so I'm respecting that. Husband has not said anything about the show, so I honestly think he doesn't really care about seeing them. Mom is coming over tomorrow, so I'll talk to her then.
Agreed. I'm sure he knows I won't want to go, but he also knows I'd encourage him to go with a friend, so if he hasn't mentioned it, I feel like it's not that important to him. I also think if it was something he really wanted, he might have tried to talk me into it already. I'm going to try to talk MIL into just asking him if he wants it. That gives me the opportunity to say I don't want to go, but he should go and have fun and he can decide if he wants to do that.Or maybe he hasn't said anything about the show because he knows it would go over like a lead balloon.
LOL! At least if they were mine, I could sell or give them away.Let's hope that the reason he's not mentioning the concert isn't that he's planning on getting you tickets for Christmas!