First I would like to thank y'all. I have appreciated this thread because I have learned a lot. And it has made me think and I THINK that I have boiled down my confusion to a particular question that I am hoping I may ask here. I do not ask it with sarcasm but am completely genuine in trying to understand. I hope I don't offend anyone but if I do, I apologize.
I guess my confusion with gender fluidity and nonbinary boils down to this, what does it mean to "identify with?" A PP said that gender, not sex, is a social construct. Ok, I can get that. But though I am a female, not everything I do falls into a female stereotype. I like to wear dresses on occasion but mostly like to wear pants. Sometimes I am emotional but often times I face decision making and arguments with a very logical "get the problem solved" type of approach. Though I love to read, I always did way better in school with math and science than with english and social studies. And then there are the things I do that aren't stereotypical male or female but just are, like tying my shoes, and eating breakfast. I would say that a good part of what I do I wouldn't assign to the way society looks at male or female but is rather just ME. I always assumed that most people are the same way. There are what, roughly 7 billion people not this planet and therefore I would guess that there are roughly 7 billion ways to be a female or a male since absolutely no one fits all the stereotypes. We all are individual and do things differently than others. I guess I don't know how to ask this in any other way but bluntly, but is gender fluidity and nonbinary simply another way to say that some people don't want to be stereotyped? Or is there more that I am not understanding?
Sorry for the long question and if you read it all the way through-thank you!
I guess my confusion with gender fluidity and nonbinary boils down to this, what does it mean to "identify with?" A PP said that gender, not sex, is a social construct. Ok, I can get that. But though I am a female, not everything I do falls into a female stereotype. I like to wear dresses on occasion but mostly like to wear pants. Sometimes I am emotional but often times I face decision making and arguments with a very logical "get the problem solved" type of approach. Though I love to read, I always did way better in school with math and science than with english and social studies. And then there are the things I do that aren't stereotypical male or female but just are, like tying my shoes, and eating breakfast. I would say that a good part of what I do I wouldn't assign to the way society looks at male or female but is rather just ME. I always assumed that most people are the same way. There are what, roughly 7 billion people not this planet and therefore I would guess that there are roughly 7 billion ways to be a female or a male since absolutely no one fits all the stereotypes. We all are individual and do things differently than others. I guess I don't know how to ask this in any other way but bluntly, but is gender fluidity and nonbinary simply another way to say that some people don't want to be stereotyped? Or is there more that I am not understanding?
Sorry for the long question and if you read it all the way through-thank you!