I’m going to try and answer a lot of questions in one post.
When I said I had it out with her, that was not my first choice of how to deal with a bad situation. I tried my best to handle the situation tactfully, but got no where. This situation happened on the night of DD’s wedding reception. My husband had been very ill in the months leading up to the wedding and we weren’t even sure he would live to see the wedding, so that added a lot of stress. I tried talking to her with no results and I lost it. Not my proudest moment for sure! (My husband passed away before DD’s first child was born.)
They travel for work so their hotel stay would be paid for by their employer, they just choose not to stay in a hotel. This will be the last time I offer my camper to them. I was trying to be nice. (My middle name should be door mat!!!)
The grandchildren are in no danger of being abused because they are NEVER left alone with these people. DD will not allow it. If they step out of line at all I am not afraid to step in if needed, but I would have to fight off SIL & DD because they would not allow it either.
I agree that SIL needs counseling, but he does not think so. He as never shown ANY sign of being abusive with his children so that is not a worry. Luckily these people only show up once a year when they are in the area for work. His mom never calls although he speaks to his dad occasionally.
DD and the baby are hiding out most of the time. She needs her rest.
Tomorrow at this time it will all be a bad memory!