My dad did the same.We had some friends who did this. Never bothered me, but it was over 30 years ago. They were pretty predictable, Friday night. They'd get a baby sitter, go out to dinner then stop by. We had to make sure we had M & M's in the candy dish. At the time my wife and I both worked graveyard shift, so we would sleep until about 5 pm Friday and have the weekend off. We'd go minature golfing, or bowling or to a movie with these folks on the spur of the momment.
Very common when I was a kid in the early to mid-1960's. My parents friends would drop by unannounced. My dad would have to scurry to put his pants on because he was relaxing in his boxes. Of course my parents did the same thing.
One friend used to open the garage door, go through the garage, tie his dog up in the backyard, then knock on back sliding glass door.
Certainly not a good idea now with a pandemic.
Amen. The in laws don't think family needs to call before dropping by. That's insulting. BIL and family don't live anywhere near us, but they like to drop by when in the area. And every time they do, I get sick. Like needing antibiotics sick. On one visit to Grandpa, BIL's youngest had a fever, diarrhea, and was vomiting. We called to say we would not be joining them, but to ask if they needed anything delivered from the pharmacy. Both BIL and Grandpa were angry at us (What?! WHY aren't you coming over?!) and didn't speak to us for weeks. Needless to say, we have a rule that no one from DH's side of the family is allowed to drop by unannounced. There isn't enough Lysol and I can't spare the Clorox wipes!call first or go away
Yep, I’d never not let someone in but I do die a little inside and find it very hard to focus on visiting with them when I’m in a ratty shirt, the kitchen is a mess and I’ve got nothing ready to serve. And I know that’s stupid because the guests don’t really care...it’s a hang-up I’m working on. Luckily, it almost never happens so I don’t get much practice.I have several good friends who say: "You can always come over, no need to call."
But I can't, I feel terrible to show up unannounced, as I know how much I hate it myself. My home is my sanctuary, I decide who gets in and when.
If you do show up unannounced, I will let you in out of courtesy, but I do not like you at that moment.
Same here- if you are a friend, neighbor or family you are free to stop by whenever you want! My neighbors will pop over just to sit and talk and it is fine- if I am in the middle of cooking they can sit in the kitchen and hang out with me while I cook.I love it when people stop by