Mackenzie Click-Mickelson
Chugging along the path of life
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- Oct 23, 2015
Unfortunately around me many caterers were like you have two choices: all plasticware including drink cups or pay a surcharge for glassware which included actual plates and actual silverware. I believe we paid a 14.5% surcharge for glassware/actual plates/actual silverware.LOL brides don't tell people what the wedding cost, but if there is a full cocktail hour with a raw bar, carving stations, passed hor d'oeuvres, and then a 5 course meal followed by a Venetian table, you know it was much more than $100 a plate (and I've never been to a wedding with plastic wear).
I'm sure venues that have catering included in the venue will be different.
I guess I wouldn't presume to figure out how much my plate costs and base my $$ on that. I mean how would you actual know?? That was more or less my point. I'm not saying the OP went and asked the bride "hey how much did you spend on me".
Using my experience as an example based on these comments you'd give me more money at the really nice country club that had their own catering included and was only $2,700 and give me less money at my actual venue which by itself was $4,500. You would be incorrect in your assumption of how much it actually cost per guest especially when you include things like open bar, tables and linens and chair covers and bows. It's all just too much to try and pin down a cost IMHO and base your gift on that.
Just because someone had their wedding at X doesn't mean I'm going to give them Y and conversely just because someone had their wedding at A doesn't mean I'm going to downgrade and only give them B.
In all seriousness I wouldn't think to recoup the costs from my wedding by wishing my guests would give me $$$$ vs $$.