cabanafrau
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- May 10, 2006
OP, my sister and I were in this position when my father died. He had changed his life insurance policy to that my sister and I were the beneficiaries shortly before he died. My step mother was a legal secretary, however, and somehow after the death his life insurance went to her. His will also disappeared, despite my uncle having a copy. We didn't want things to get ugly so we let it be.
Whatever, it didn't matter to us. We didn't care about the money or anything else. We just wanted our childhood pictures and mementos from our grandmother. Unfortunately our step-monster, I mean step-mother threw away the family albums and gave away everything that was my dad's and my grandmothers. It's just how she is and who she is. Fortunately before my parents divorced, my mom did split family pictures between her and my father so we do have those. Our uncles have also included us in their wills so we will receive some of our grandmother's belongings. Some of those items they have already given to us.
It's hard and it's not fair. Watching my step-siblings raid my dad's workshop of tools and items he made was heartbreaking because we knew we would never get any of his hand-made furniture. We didn't care about anything monetarily, just as memories. We were mad, hurt, and even bitter for a while, but we moved on because we couldn't let this consume us. We still have memories that can never be taken.
The life insurance maneuver is astounding. Insurance companies are noted for being implacable about how they will pay out and to whom.